A close friend is persistently late for everything and I tolerated this for years, she appears not to care how it affects me or others in our circle of friends. In fact she usually makes a joke of it. She doesn’t have children to sort out, or any real commitments to stop her being ready on time.
On the most recent occasion her lateness affected all of my guests, people were standing around awaiting her arrival, food was spoiling on the table etc. People were prompting me to start without her, there was no excuse as the invitation was written with a clear time of arrival. She arrived 40 mins late with no apology.
This time I privately asked her why she was so late and explained our friends had been kept waiting. She didn’t have an explanation and stormed out of my house slamming the door on her way out.
I feel hurt. One of our friends thought she would apologise the next day when she had reflected, however it was quite the reverse, she blocked me on all social media and removed herself from my contacts. The general feeling though was that she’s done me a favour as her disrespect has gone on for far too long. I am shocked though, her reaction suggests she thinks it is perfectly ok to treat people this way.