He actually said I was pretty!

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For the very first time tonight, my husband said that he thought I was pretty. I know that he loves and appreciates me from his behaviour and actions but he has never actually verbally said anything complimentary to me.

But tonight (whilst we were having a Mumsnet-thread-prompted nostalgic chat) he actually said that when he first saw my picture (we met OLD) he thought I was 'pretty'.

I'm really not shallow. I'm at least 10 stone overweight but I know (without sounding big-headed) that I'm genuinely an ok person. Like all of us, I have my good points and my bad points, but I try to go through life without being a complete and utter arse. So, generally speaking, my self esteem is not in the gutter. I like me.

But tonight, the man I love so dearly, actually said something nice about my physical appearance! This is truly a 'dear diary' moment for me.

I've had an entire lifetime of "well, she's got a really lovely personality" - subtext "she's great, but also very very fat and therefore ugly and unattractive"....so my husband finally actually saying that he doesn't think I'm physically repulsive means the absolute world.

Noone else to share this with but really needed to say it somewhere. Sorry for waffling and thanks for listening.

That's lovely for you OP.
It sounds as though you have a great relationship.

That's so lovely 😍

I get you OP. I had a 10 year relationship, my DP never said I was pretty or beautiful. He said he was attracted to me, loved me, and made me feel loved in other ways. But 'pretty', 'beautiful', always seemed conspicuous by its absence, like it was universally acknowledged or something that I wasn't pretty.

I've been called good-looking, pretty or beautiful maybe 4 times in my life. Despite all that, I do actually think I'm reasonably pretty!

That's lovely OP, I'm so pleased for you!

Ah that’s lovely. I know how hard it can be to feel beautiful when you don’t fit society’s/instagram’s accepted mould.

I had a similar thing yesterday when my (skinny and sporty) DP of a year told me he loved all of my body and I don’t need to hide it from him. We spent the rest of the day naked, watching tv, making out and eating pizza. It was bliss!! At the age of 50 I am finally starting to feel at home in my body. Glad you are feeling at home in yours too OP xx