Do you like having no plans - am I boring?

[treacledan71]

Mid 50s. Teenage child so easy childcare except mentally lol. Work full time hybrid so in office 2 to 3 days a long days a week so do see people. Got nice friends I message alot. Local ones work different shifts and weekends. Other half works every other weekend. He suggested go out tonight but now doing an extra tomorrow and starts early. I feel so happy now stopping in. Get housework done and chill. I read the thread of Lucysmom of what people are doing today and feel a bit boring. I do have plans over next month. A work leaving event, a night in hotel with DH and sorting lunch with my friends that work shifts which I will enjoy. I don't drive either and money is a bit tight. DH goes out once a month with his friends. My work colleague sort of said I am boring but I just love Saturday nights in. Is anyone the same?

I've come to realise how much sense there is in the Philosophy of stoicism - one of the principles being the sense of enjoyment in quiet time away from crowds and the freedom of mental space without the constant chatter, every minute occupied with noise, the "look at me" influencer-style behaviours that can be exhausting and draining nowadays. Coming off SM helps.

It's taken me years to recognise it in myself, I used to think there was something wrong with me not wanting to have numerous plans and loads of "friends" but now I understand what's going on, I just embrace it!

Thanks for all your comments. Made me feel so much better. I think I am a bit of a loner too. I do talk a lot though and like people. Quite happy though if dh is watching sport on TV downstairs and DS in his room, to be on my own reading or watching my amzon fire stick in the bedroom.

I'm 51 and exactly the same, I have quite a stressful life caring for my terminally unwell mum so my home and space is my salvation.

Many of my friends have this whole fomo thing going on and feel the need to cram as much as possible into their lives but I can honestly say I have never felt like that. I am more than happy to be at home or failing that a potter around a garden centre and/or a visit to a cafe suits me just fine.

I have made my peace with it, it's my life and I will live it how I see fit regardless if anyone finds it boring or not. They can do their own thing.

I’m the same, OP, I love having nothing particular planned - and I really need quiet time in between going-out days.
A dd is the opposite - non stop going-out, doing-stuff activity is the breath of life to her!

I am actually in horror at the thought of a Saturday night out. If im not in, id rather be sat against a wall at the beach on a picnic rug with a flask of tea.

Glad it's not only me. Housework done. Need to pop to shop later and cook but that's it. Enjoy your weekend everyone and thanks x

It might help to reconsider your presentation. You shouldn't need to, but with someone rude like your colleague it might shut them down if you say 'A lovely home weekend' or similar. 'Not a lot' sounds like you may wish you were doing more, whereas actually you want to do exactly what you do.

How rude. I like occasional plans, love a party or get together, and also love staying in.

Yes I did actually say to her I am a home bird when she said it.

Yes I'm much the same, I'm at work 4 days and want to relax on my days off

I love having no plans! Sometimes I say I'm busy when I'm not just to have a weekend to myself so I can relax and brain dump what has been happening and steel myself for the onslaught of coming weeks if I know its going to be busy.

I love having no plans, taking each day as it comes. I wouldn’t like it all the time, I’d get bored I’m sure, but I like to have one day on a weekend with no plans. It’s the summer holidays now and I have two young children at home and we just had a week with nothing planned and it was honestly so much fun and such a tonic not having to rush here and there for certain times. We’ve done loads of things but with no time pressures and nobody else to consider but ourselves. Bliss.

I would find it boring and depressing as a regular thing, but (1) I wouldn’t tell you so and (2), why would my opinion of your life matter more than yours?

Sometimes doing nothing is the 'plans' . As is time to potter about.

Exciting plans are only Exciting to me if they are things I don't do frequently.

I spend most of my life with no plans - and I love it!

I LOVE having no plans and actually feel quite suffocated if my diary is overly booked up.

Of course I don't end up literally doing nothing, or just sitting on the sofa staring at the wall. It leaves the time open for me to get in touch with what I really need or want to explore, and it does still feel like exploring, even if the majority of my choices don't take me out of the house.

A weekend or day of no plans generally turns into:

• Doing some gardening, which is great for my MH and I get immense satisfaction out of growing things and supporting nature and wildlife.
• Reading a book. Absolute bliss. I was an almost obsessive reader in my teenage years, but haven't been able to indulge in the same way since having kids. Now they're a little older I really appreciate what a treat it is to thoroughly immerse myself in a good book.
• Going to the gym. Very similar vibes to reading, was something that I struggled to do with young kids in the past, so I'm grateful of the oppertunity to do so with ease now.
• Watch a movie or play a board game with my husband and/or kids. Deeply satisfying to just absorb spending time with people I love.
• Spend time cooking something delicious. I love to cook, especially bread, but the midweek rush can make it feel like a time pressured chore, so a nice lazy weekend normally involves some sort of cooking. I find cooking food we have grown in the garden deeply satisfying.
• Go for a walk somewhere beautiful.
• I like trying new hobbies, so I've learned how to knit, but could definitely try out more patterns. I would love to learn to use a sewing machine and make/adjust my own clothes, especially as I'm quite short. I wouldn't mind giving crochet a go this autumn/winter. There seems to be endless possibilities, which I find very exciting!

I would genuinely take a weekend involving those things over an over scheduled weekend any day!

Thanks for all the further responses. I really enjoyed my night of no plans last night. I do enjoy doing things as well bit not all the time. Got a night away end of August and drinks after work next week. But like quiet things.

I plan to have no plans! It's important for my health to have a day at home
Sundays are usually my at home day, I call them reset days where I do everything to make my life easier for the week

So went to Aldi and b&m, unpacked the shopping, did some cleaning so the place is clean for the week and now watching a TV series
Later on I'll do some food prep for work lunches, sometimes I batch cook on a Sunday