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Am I silly to be a bit sad?

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Adaaaa · 01/08/2024 21:03

That I’m probably on my last baby and it’s flew and I’ve been depressed and not cherished/enjoyed it as much as I should?

I kept deluding myself into thinking I’d have a third. Ideally I’d love 3 but my partner works long and not to be mean, is useless. I do 90% of parenting. So it’s hard enough with a 2.5yo and 6mo I couldn’t do 3 kids alone.

but I’m just sad I had my hopes up that this time would be different. My partner better. And now my youngest is 6 months and I’ve just struggled through it it’s been so hard and lonely and I’ve been depressed.

I wish I would’ve cherished my pregnancy more. I just spent all of that feeling guilty about my edlest being so young and getting a sibling and I wish I would’ve tried to cherish the early days more. :(

(NB: extremely grateful I have 2 amazing happy healthy kids! Just got that ‘last baby’ feeling)

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serialcatbuyer · 01/08/2024 21:13

I feel wistful about this too. If I met the right man I would consider having another but I don't see it happening, not in the next few years. Your baby is still little though, try and just enjoy this part and I'm sure you will look back happily

Adaaaa · 01/08/2024 22:11

serialcatbuyer · 01/08/2024 21:13

I feel wistful about this too. If I met the right man I would consider having another but I don't see it happening, not in the next few years. Your baby is still little though, try and just enjoy this part and I'm sure you will look back happily

yeah I think this. If I ever did split from my fiance and met someone who would be more helpful, emphatetic and involved definitely as I’m still young.

But I don’t plan to split from him so that’s that!

i think if anything this has made me do that as she still is so young so it’s reminded me to enjoy these little momenys

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Jk987 · 01/08/2024 22:34

You've every right to be sad if you do 90% of the parenting and your partner is quote: 'useless'

It's not too late for him to change that aspect...

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