Do you judge people by their friends?

[TERFtown]

I would never judge anyone by their family as obviously nobody chooses them.

However, I do admit that I do judge people by their friends. For example, I've never understood why bullies and bitchy people have the large number of friends that they do. There's a woman I work with who's just horrible to anyone subordinate to her. Despite this, she has more friends and fans than anyone I know, but if I know that someone's friends with her, I tend to avoid them. Quite simply, I don't want bullies or their enablers in my life.

Yes of course.

If your mate is Tommy Robinson, for example, you’re a bell end. Fact.

There is a difference between friends and people who don’t want to cross her.

It depends, I’ve friends that other friends have met and thought they weren’t nice people but actually the person was just having a bad day.in the same way there’s people who think I’m a nice person and others who think I’m a cow depending on when they’ve seen/ met me. Very few of us are downright bitches, and very few of us are perfect and chances are you’ll make a snap decision but not realise the lovely side to them

I agree, but many of this woman's frenemies have been around for years now.

I'd say that's different though. We all have bad days, yes. However, even on my worst days, I'm not a bully!

People who are insecure don’t want to be on the receiving end of a bully’s behaviour so it can feel easier to be friends with them. It’s not an excuse but it’s what happens, I think

Because people you perceive to be ‘bullies’ or ‘bitchy’ may be perfectly nice to people in other contexts. It’s a total myth that niceness gets you friends. I like interesting, clever people who are probably not everyone’s cup of tea.

Absolutely.

I can be understanding if there are some awkward social dynamics that mean calling someone out for mild bad behaviour would be detrimental. Small villages, mutual friends and family, work relationships etc.

But I definitely judge people by the company they keep, if they're friends through free will and/or the other person is a bigot, bully, cruel, violent etc rather than just being mildly unpleasant.

There's a woman I work with who's just horrible to anyone subordinate to her

If this is a colleague, and a colleague that you don't like, how would you now how many friends she has ?

Also, how would her friends know about what you perceive to be bullying at work ?