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Anyone else randomly feel like this at times?

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nas2001 · 30/07/2024 23:09

I’m 24 with a 9 month old DS. Lately I’ve been feeling weird and I don’t know why. He is a good baby and I take him out often. Whether it’s his swimming lesson or to have a coffee with his friend or to visit family but recently I feel overwhelmed during the day when we’re alone together especially when he doesn’t settle and I find myself wishing he’d be old enough to play on his own and entertain himself or not cry after me. I’m a young parent but this is what I’ve always wanted and feel so grateful I could even have a baby in the first place as I understand people can struggle to conceive.

Bit of a background of my life

I have a lot of support around me through family and although I don’t have many friends I have a few that are great to me.

I’m lucky to have a supportive DH who works long hours but will still come home and take over and help around the house when things need doing.

We’re lucky to be in a great position finance wise with a low mortgage and no debt and no childcare fees as when I return to work my DM will take care of DS. But I’m still constantly worrying about money. I worry about losing everything and the fact something could happen to DH whilst he is working. (He has a risky job)

I worry about losing my parents. I worry about dying and leaving DS and not even knowing I’m dead.

DH usually puts DS to bed and instead of using the time to relax I just find myself sitting there with no feeling of enjoyment, not even watching my favourite film or series on Netflix.

What I’m trying to say is I have no trauma, I have good relationships with the people in my life and my baby isn’t the worst baby but I just feel like somethings been sucked out of my body and I just don’t feel right anymore. On paper I should be happy but for some reason I don't feel that way and I feel guilty because I really do love DS to bits and I really do think about how hard people have it so I just don't understand why I've been feeling like this.

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WalkInAStraightLine · 30/07/2024 23:13

It's a bit of a monotonous and relentless time when they're that young. Honestly it will get better and more fun, and I doubt there's a single parent who hasn't wished time away at some point.

Have you looked into life /critical illness insurance to give you peace of mind about losing work/health? We did that after Covid hit and we realised how much we depend on one industry not going under.

Mat leave is a weird time in my experience. You can't help but contrast your 'old life' which has changed so much. If you do feel really low or can't find joy in anything it wouldn't be the worst idea to chat to your GP.

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