I am currently arguing with my husband over taking our kids skiing. Sorry I know this isn’t a big problem but I just need some advice on whether I am being a total arse as I’m questioning myself.
I have always wanted to go skiing since I was young but we could never afford holidays growing up. My children have missed out on ski trips at school one because of Covid we paid for it in full and then it couldn’t go ahead (we got a refund) and my youngest just didn’t get a place because there was only 40 places. So we were able to pay for each of them to go with school but it just didn’t work out so they were both disappointed about that.
My mum is 62 and really wants to go skiing but has no one to go with. She went once as a teenager and then was never able to go again. My dad has been very ill with his mental health for the past 10 months and it has really taken its toll on them both. She’s asked me a few times if we could go on a skiing holiday with them next feb. My husband has absolutely no desire to go skiing so has said no despite me and the kids being desperate to go.
I’ve priced up a really reasonable deal for 4 days in Bulgaria in Feb half term for me and the two kids. My eldest is an adult so she will be paying for herself. He got really cross last night when I suggested it and we got in a really bad argument. He said he works hard all year for a holiday and if we go skiing we won’t afford a family holiday next year. The skiing trip is a third of our holiday budget so I argued we would still get a holiday just not as fancy as we usually do.
We both work full time he earns 3x more than me and it really feels like because of this he makes all of the decisions when it comes to money/holidays. We have a joint account and all of our money is shared. He said we can go if I can pay for it so I have been doing some tuition to raise extra money towards it but its not much. I think he’s being unfair I really want to make these memories with the kids and my parents especially as it’s been a tricky year for them and both kids missed out on trips of their own. But am I being unfair? It’s been on my mind all day and we are barely talking.