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Don't know if I'm being friend zoned, breadcrumbed or plain overthinking

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Redrocky · 29/07/2024 20:23

Recently seperated man, says he doesn't want anything more than friendship with anyone, for now. After an long marriage, wants some time to himself, which makes sense to me, I'm in a similar boat and enjoying the single life.

Except every now and again he does something that feels a bit weird for friendship:

  • He seems to enjoy letting others think we might be a couple.
  • We mostly meet up with a group of friends through a shared interest, but he always want to know if I'm going before he commits
  • Sometimes he'll contact me and suggest we do an event just the two of us
  • The messaging. Sometimes it's multiple times a day for days on end. Then he goes quiet for a week or two, until it starts up again
  • Every now and again he'll do something really kind and considerate for me. He is a kind man and will help anyone, but he's really gone out of his way for me a few times.

I don't think I really care. I enjoy his company and he's a good reliable friend, someone I could call in an emergency, which is important when you live alone, but I have no real desire to be involved with any man, let alone a recently seperated one and his baggage!

But I have no idea what's going on in his head and it sometimes doesn't feel like "just" friendship.

OP posts:
leeverarch · 29/07/2024 20:30

Have you posted about him before? Sounds remarkably similar.

Redrocky · 29/07/2024 20:56

Maybe, I am prone to overthinking and oversharing, but I don't think so.

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Arconialiving · 29/07/2024 21:17

All seems like a friendship to me Op. Are you sure you're not reading more into it because that's what you want?

Redrocky · 29/07/2024 21:19

Arconialiving · 29/07/2024 21:17

All seems like a friendship to me Op. Are you sure you're not reading more into it because that's what you want?

No, I think it's the opposite actually. I want it to be a straightforward friendship with no complications and every once in a while I think "uhoh" .

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Arconialiving · 29/07/2024 21:34

In that case, I wouldn't worry. Take it for what he's shown it to be, a friendship. Keep responding to him as a friend also and it'll all be fine.

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