Opening a card

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Im a bit upset as o gave a lovrly v farewell good luck card to someone who is moving to another part of the counyry and they dusmt even open it. Normally you look at ot and say its lovelt but thisperson kept daying they would look at it later and im never going to see them again for them to say oh it was nice. Perhaps they were too shy to open ot im front of me

You give a card just for someone to compliment you on it?

Maybe they thought they’d be a bit teary, and didn’t want to be upset in public, don’t overthink it.

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When I give someone something nice I like to see their reaction. The pleasure in giving and all that. Is that selfish? I thought enjoying making someone feel happy was a good thing.

Not Everyone likes an audience when opening cards or gifts. Did they say thank you when you handed it to them? If they did surely that’s enough

I'm just not used to someone saying thank you and just taking the card and not opening it because other people that I give a card to open it in front of me and says something like oh what a lovely card that's really nice I love that thank you

I spent ages picking out the card trying to find the best one and so it would be nice to see the reaction

It's not as if she's got my phone number or email or WhatsApp to send me a message to say what she thought of it

I wish I hadn't bothered now

ungracious giving isn’t giving

I hate, hate, hate opening cards and gifts in front of people. I'm not a very naturally effusive person and when I try I feel like it comes out as sarcastic even when it's not. I feel so much pressure to give the 'right' reaction everything just comes out wrong. Id genuinely rather not have to accept cards and gifts than have to go through the performance I feel I need to put on.

Oh I hate being watched while I open a gift or a card. I feel so aware of my reaction, and then it ends up feeling fake because I'm so conscious of it that I'm thinking more about how I should react than I am having any genuine reaction.

I'm one of these people. Birthday, Xmas, retirement, all those, take them away and open them privately. Of course I'll send a text or email to thank. There might be a tenner in the card, which would make things awkward if others hadn't put one in! So best do it later 😀

Calm down. Take a deep breath.

You're making this all about you. It seems as though you care more about this person appreciating the trouble that you went to in choosing the card than you do about their move and what that means to them.

They thanked you for the card so weren't rude you.

It's a personal preference whether to open cards in front of the giver or to open them privately later.

If your putting conditions on receiving a card then maybe your best not doing so.

You’re supposed to give for the person it’s going to not for yourself. It’s not about you.

I’m the same. I hate Christmas with the in laws because they insist on sitting in a circle to open gifts!! 😫

Wait a mo, I'm meant to open cards in front of people?! I don't understand how that works am I meant to see all the people who give me cards on my birthday because surely you only open cards on the actual day/shortly after if your away?

Don't think anybody has ever opened a card in front of me.

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I don't open cards in front of people, it's awkward and I'd rather do it when I can be bothered, at home

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So you are only prepared to do something if they do it the way you want?

I never open cards in front of people (unless it was a child who had given it to me). To be honest with you I never knew it was a thing and I used to get loads of cards from clients in my former job.

There are certain cultures where it is unlucky to open cards and presents in front of the person who gave it to you.