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What would you do - upcoming holiday and mental breakdown

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Crampulet · 27/07/2024 22:11

Hello, I am in a fog and can't sew clearly, so hoping someone else might. I have been dealing with a lot of stress lately and feeling overwhelmed with everyday life. We have small children and no family support, so we are burnt out with work and homelife. Two sudden bereavement of close friends have now pushed me to breaking point. I have taken a week off work as sick leave, but don't feel any better for it. We have a booked holiday coming up in a few days visiting close family abroad and I feel completely unable to prepare for it. All of it overwhelms me and I don't even know where to start. Partner just as burnt out, so between us we are getting nowhere. Deep down I would like to cancel the trip, but it would affect too many people. It would also make me feel extremely guilty as these are important family relationships (our parents) and who knows for how much longer we will have them. We only manage to see them once a year. I don't know what to do, I am contemplating not travelling with partner and children, but follow them a few days later. Not sure partner would cope with this though, as not in any a better place mentally right now, although generally a much more resilient person than I am. What would you do? Would you try to plough through and hope the trip brings some rest? (It usually doesn't, but tends to be a welcome change of scenary.)

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SomewhatContraryMary · 28/07/2024 00:08

Putting the trip aside, if you could do anything in the next week - what would it be?

We've been through a few losses lately that made us question everything and we have wanted to just have some time with our kids who are also similar ages to yours (3 kids though!). Honestly, the time with them on vacation with no work has been great - knackering physically but restorative mentally. They've forced us out of our heads, out of thinking about the losses and into the moment - it has helped a lot.

Maybe thinking about what you really want to do, and spending some time with the kids will provide similar "space". It's impossible to know you're making the right choices for sure - but the thing is in life, we always have options - even if sometimes we don't see them right away!!!

Crampulet · 28/07/2024 13:37

@SomewhatContraryMary That's a good question. If I could choose anything, I would be off work and do easy stuff with the children like beach, watching olympics, gardening...etc. Not an option right now, but that would be my happy place.

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