Small manifestations of male entitlement

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Ex husband - would only buy the best, most expensive food when sent shopping, without thinking how we will cope the rest of the month. He would get himself only most expensive chocolate because “that’s what he likes” and a big standard bar for me. I was the only earner at the time! At home - opening fresh milk bottle when the old one is still fresh, within date. Not even trying to look for clothes in budget stores. Saying to other people that he is the head of household (without a job).

I'm sure other people do, but I never tire of these threads. And their frequency and size shows just how many women are putting up with so much shit from men, many silently living a life like this for years or decades. And that is such a fucking tragedy.

Modern men are entitled arseholes, expecting more in every way - better cars, gadgetry, better looking partners, better sex, better incomes, better children, better everything than they could ever actually earn through graft, gumption or gratitude. They always, always give far less in return for everything they get.

I know plenty of fellow women who act like that. Some of them are related to me, both by blood and by marriage.

For me, it's the way they walk along the street, just maintaining their own trajectory without reference to anyone else and expecting women to get out of the way.

I have developed very sharp elbows and solid shoulders as I've got older.

I am right there getting annoyed with male.entitlement. but your examples are not male entitlement as such - that's wankerish, borderline abusive behaviour.

Walking on the road and thinking they have right of way- definitely male.entitlement. man spreading - drives me crazy!

So many men just assuming someone else will do the childcare and mental load.

I think we must be related!😆
I can't stand the behaviour mentioned by the OP and nor can my OH but I know a couple of women who act just like that.
I sometimes wonder if it is a boast to show how money (and waste) mean so little to them.🤔

Was once doing some gift shopping with one.
She was eyeing up expensive chocolates and was taken with one type in particular but dismissed it when she saw it was on offer (still expensive). In another shop the same chocolates were available but at full price, this time she was happy to buy them?????

Another friend once asked me to buy an "experience" voucher for a family member (I have no idea why she could not do it herself).
I proudly told her I had bought it but had found an on-line voucher which meant I got her 50% off (a very significant saving as it was an expensive "experience") . She grumpily told me that she now had to go and find another gift to make up the difference in cost (even though the recipient would never know about the saving)????

“I’ve got no clean socks”

The implication being the little woman (me) needs to put a load on.

He’s learnt now. Why it’s wrong and how to use the machine.

I don’t think what you describe is a small entitlement OP. This man is clearly your ex for a reason.

I don’t think entitlement is more prevalent in either sex tbh, there’s plenty of it everywhere.

My sister-in-law does the milk thing. Has to open a new pint for cereal when the existing one is still fine (and on occasion better dated) it drives me mad. So not an exclusively male thing. Just an inconsiderate idiot thing.

I as a woman find that prammy-mammies do that too.

Man in his early 30s sitting in a priority seat on the bus as I stood holding a sleeping kid in my arms, next to 2 women of at least 80, another woman with a tiny baby, and an old guy with some kind of physical issue.

Not a care in the world for this guy as the entire bus glared at him and he pretended he couldn't see.....

Complaining that I can never stick to OUR food budget that he arbitratrariliy decides to set despite having zero concept of cost. I am the one doing the grocery shopping and food planning and cooking etc. HE also decided that he can’t live without specific high end brands of staple items (that only he eats) like ketchup, baked beans, cereal, yoghurt, bread from a bakery chain, etc (I have coeliac disease and never eat bread) and designates other equally high end items as “his”. Also buys spontaneous treats like wine on the way home, but it is me failing to stick to the budget.
Despite this, he is also far too busy and important to do the groceries, planning and cooking. He is in for a massive shock. Discovering how much he has been spending on snacks, coffees and lunches at work was the nail in the coffin for me. He is going to be working from home for the next for months and as my new job is night shift and I am using all of his own arguments to quietly quit all of the domestic duties.

This thread is about male entitlement and already there are posters falling over themselves to talk about women being the same or worse....

Happens every time, but it's always very lame compared to the legitimate issues women face with men. And doing little or nothing around the house, abusing the household budget and taking more than they give in every way IS male entitlement. It's the very essence of it - it's the attitude that women are here to serve, to sacrifice their own happiness/ comfort/ share of food for their manz.

Men are getting lazier now that traditional male domestic tasks have been largely disappeared. Men used to wash and maintain cars and do house maintenance and spend many hours in the garden, including growing vegetables for their family. Modern men do none of that, while the burden of cleaning, caring, cooking etc has largely stayed the same for women.