I took naked photos of myself and can't stop thinking about them.

[ThatsGoneAndDoneItNow]

I was considering plastic surgery after multiple pregnancies, breastfeeding and 100lb weightloss. I had to send provisional photos to the surgeon, naked, front view, back view and both sides.

I never look at myself in the mirror or in the shower so I had no idea how 'bad' it was. How bad the over hang is. My breasts are massively unsymmetrical. And I've also discovered how saggy my bottom is and that I have a 'double bum cheek' thing going on, a row of saggy skin under my cheeks.

Obviously to be considering surgery I was already very conscious of my body but now I'm just devastated.

I've lost what small amount of confidence I had and I have been unable to be intimate with my husband, I actually started to cry when we tried.

I decided to delay the surgery because of logistics and finances (I may decide to get it done at a later date but just can't right now)

But I wish I'd never taken them.

I can't do anything about the issues. It's the result of alot of weightloss and no amount of exercise or toning can remove the skin or lift my breasts.

To make it worse I thought I needed a basic procedure but 2 surgeons agreed I needed the more extreme version because of the amount of skin.

So that made me feel even worse. Like I'm the worst case scenario surgically.

I wish I would have kept my head in the sand instead of looking at myself.

Please don't blame Instagram and the kardashians for people expecting a perfect body. This isn't about that.

I'm not looking for perfection. Just a functioning body without folds and crevices that get thrush etc...

What would you say to a friend who told you all of this about themselves?

I don't think it's about comparing to celebrities it's how you feel about yourself.

Your weight loss in itself is a huge achievement and you should be so proud of yourself.

I don't think anyone can mentally prepare for how you feel after losing a considerable amount of weight.

The Drs and Consultants etc are very focussed on how much better you will look but not how the insecurities of being overweight will then shift on to the body that you are then working with, excess skin, different pains and prospect of further surgeries.

Are you having any therapy at all?

In regard to being with your Husband i'm sure you know deep down he loved you before, during and at the stage you are now. Don't deny yourself of that relationship with your Husband as he obviously loves you and all versions of you x

Hi, OP. I understand. I lost 15 stone after bariatric surgery and my whole body is like a deflated balloon. It is very, very disheartening. My life is positively transformed in many ways and I would have the surgery again without hesitation, but it surely is disheartening.
I feel ashamed of the damage I inflicted on my body but I try hard to focus on the vast improvements in my health and quality of life. Can you try to think of it that way? I know it's very hard. The surgery you mentioned is a good option, which you can work towards.
I'm sorry you feel so down. Sending you a virtual hug.

Thankyou.

I know I made the right decision in the weightloss and I am alot happier and healthier but it's a different kind of shame now. It's hidden. People can see when you're fat, when the mess is hidden it's almost like a shameful secret.

I want to feel more confident but I don't.

Try and see your current body as temporary and focus on how amazing you'll feel when you've had the surgery.