What type of frustrating behaviour is this?

[goodmorningusa]

I’m not sure if it’s an “always has to be right”

Example:

Showed colleague the hair extensions I’m getting this weekend. She insisted on telling me that will make my own hair look yellow because of the contrast.

I said, yeah I thought of this myself and I’ve spoken to my hairdresser and it’s all good etc

Proceeds to then just repeat her point again.

😐

Unsolicited advice.

Ignore. What's her hair like? You have whatever you fancy. Speak with your hairdresser. I wouldn't fancy her as a friend.

Is always criticism.

Negative and deliberately invalidating.

The recipient feels crushed.
I avoid sharing anything with these types, they always have a put down ready

A moderate form of bullying.

This. I've come across a few people like this in my life and it just makes me not want to tell anyone anything

I think its wise to remember that most people are fairly indifferent to what others do, although would be polite and around 20% actually hope others will fail

It prompts the thought

Why am I telling people things about me?

Good friends and family -yes

Work colleagues/ acquaintances- no
If it's to seek validation or approval ask why you need it?
It allows people to form negative views or judgements about you, obviously this is their poor self esteem

They're probably just tactless and think they’re giving you valuable feedback. It does raise the question of why you invited the unsolicited advice by showing your colleague your extensions, though.

Well I think the point of the OP has flown right over your head.

Its basically saying

• I’m doing X
• Yes but if you do X have you thought about Y
• Actually I have and it’s ok
• Have you thought about Y