Guilt over this :(

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My partner works away so I’m alone with our 2 young kids a lot, 2.5 and 5months old

i feel so guilty tonight at bed time my youngest is teething was so unsettled I had to pace the room to calm her down my eldest just lay on the bed patiently as he was tired :(i explained why she’s crying

and said sorry it was loud etc her mouth is hurting, and I gave him a cuddle and said how patient he was and good with his little sister

I just feel so guilty he witnesses this a lot with her as she’s been a fussy baby really ( I love her but she has) and alone it’s hard I just feel so guilty

hes okay isn’t he? It’s normal for older siblings to witness this with younger baby siblings

Don't feel guilty!

I have a just turned 3 yo and a just turned 1 yo.

My 3 year old was in the same boat and he didn't seem phased at all. In fact, now they're 3 & 1 and those days already seem a distant memory. It goes so quickly!

It sounds like you're doing a brilliant job. It's so so hard doing solo bedtimes with a baby and a toddler.

I try to find just 15-20 mins each day when the baby is napping to spend quality one to one time with my eldest (today we baked!) and I find that helps.

You've given them the gift of a sibling.

It gets easier :)

Don't worry op, I think this is unavoidable when you have two, or at least it's my experience too. Your boy sounds fab, what a patient little chap. If he didny have a younger sibling, he might not have the chance to build such a patient character.

I've recently discovered teething gel with lidocaine in it - it doesn't last long but completely numbs the area for a short time. Could be worth a try in that kind of urgent situation.

It's so so hard doing solo bedtimes with a baby and a toddler.

I agree so hard

Aww don’t worry OP, it’s hard enough at this stage of parenting. I had a 21 mths gap between my two DS’. Just get through each day. Your toddler won’t remember this in years to come. Sounds like you are doing a great job

Thank you I did try to reassure myself plenty of older siblings must go through this especially if they have a younger baby sibling with colic or just fussy too etc

i just worry it’ll make him stressed and aad :(he seems okay honestly he is the most amazing little boy he is so patient with her and so loving! So although it’s hard I know they’ve got the most amazing bond alteacy

i just constantly feel guilty because I worried they both think I can’t give them my undivided attention I try

Everyone fed and no one dead is my motto ;)