How do I stop being scared of my mum???

[YourAquaLion]

I’ve gone low contact, had LOADS of therapy, stopped thinking her of my mum or that she can change, but how do I stop being triggered right back to childhood when she gets annoyed/angry/displeased with me?

How can I be less sensitive and immune? How do I stop being frightened? I’m fucking 40 for goodness sake. It’s so humiliating that I feel this way.

Help!!! Has anyone managed to overcome an acute fear of their mother’s negative emotions towards them? Always alert in case she turns? Can’t relax in her presence even if things are going ok.

Thank you for any advice. I audio-booked the ‘you’re not the problem’ book suggested on my previous thread too, really helped thank you, will listen again! After some practical examples of real life successes from others on here now.

You say you've gone low contact but it sounds as though its not low enough.

Op if it was me I would go no contact completely. Don't answer the phone,letter or the door. Its the only way you will get any peace. 💐❤️🙏

Thanks that’s good advice. I just don’t want to be the troublemaker. And I keep also feeling sorry for her. And I feel like I want to be able to stand up to her, I wonder if I can treat it like they do phobias, with gradually built up contact. Maybe it’s not the same.