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Trying to get the guts to ring my mum

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Mymum87 · 24/07/2024 15:30

To much to explain but the back story is on another thread I done a couple of days ago.

I'm going to try and ring my mum. But im scared to. She is in a care home so I'm guessing u have to do it very soon.

I'm trying to see how to get there to visit. If it seems the right thing to do . But it's far I don't drive. And it's alot of money .

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BlimminCat · 24/07/2024 15:38

Are you currently No contact with her?
Can you give a brief outline of circumstances? Because it would be easier to comment then.

chocciechipz · 24/07/2024 15:48

Was this relating to the thread the other day about dementia but your DM had treated you terribly?
If I need to make an important / scary call, I always make sure I'm doing something when I make the call (washing up, tidying DCs rooms.) so the entire focus isn't on that Phone ringing. Only works if you have headphones obviously though!

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Mymum87 · 24/07/2024 15:57

BlimminCat · 24/07/2024 15:38

Are you currently No contact with her?
Can you give a brief outline of circumstances? Because it would be easier to comment then.

Its on my other thread. Or @chocciechipz explained in a nut shell

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Mymum87 · 24/07/2024 17:05

I spoke to her for litterly 2 mins. She was not horrible or anything her tone seemed OK. Everything was one word answers. It's been such a long time it was hard to think what to say. I don't think she really knew who she was talking to.

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AnnieMcFanny · 24/07/2024 17:10

@Mymum87 I used to have conversations like that with my beloved mum when she was in our local psychiatric hospital in the last 8 months leading up to her death. The conversations would be difficult, trying to think of something to say, and her replies were always one made up of either yes/no/ok.

I think your mum did what she could today ❤️

Fizzadora · 24/07/2024 17:12

Well done OP you have done what you needed to do. Don't dwell on it and don't feel the need to visit either.

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Mymum87 · 24/07/2024 17:27

Fizzadora · 24/07/2024 17:12

Well done OP you have done what you needed to do. Don't dwell on it and don't feel the need to visit either.

I am going to try and visit . The call was not to bad. Considering there's been long term no contact. And she's not well . I don't think it was to bad .

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Mymum87 · 24/07/2024 17:28

AnnieMcFanny · 24/07/2024 17:10

@Mymum87 I used to have conversations like that with my beloved mum when she was in our local psychiatric hospital in the last 8 months leading up to her death. The conversations would be difficult, trying to think of something to say, and her replies were always one made up of either yes/no/ok.

I think your mum did what she could today ❤️

Yeah . It's been a very long time since we had contact to. So it was not going to be easy.

I'm sorry for what you went through with your mum. Ut must have been so hard . I hope your OK 💐

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Mymum87 · 25/07/2024 09:43

I'm going to go and see her on Saturday. Kind of worried as I don't know what her reaction will be. I just have to see how it all gos.

I'm pissed of with myself. I was trying to make everything as cheap as possible. I checked to see if my family rail card was still valid . It said no . So i paid for a new one. I go on the app thing to check on it and see my old card that does not expire till August 20th . I must have not looked properly. So now I wasted 30.00 😭

I have sent her a tv for her room that should arrive tomorrow.

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