I've always been quite shy, an introvert happy to spend time with DH and DC.
When DH died, I was very fortunate that a more extrovert friend/aquaintance kind of took me under her wing and included me in her busy social life.
I threw myself into it to keep busy, overcame a lot of my old anxieties and have a decent life now, both through her social group and others.
However, I find myself stressing over male attention (or lack of it). I know and meet a lot of men and it bothers me when they don't seem to find me attractive....even though I don't want a man, I enjoy my single life and will definitely never live with a man again. I don't even always like the men much, I just seem to want/need them to like me.
I work with troubled teens and we don't talk about attention seeking anymore, it's all about their need for attention, and it doesn't take an expert to see that I might be missing it since DH died, but how do I go about fulfilling the need, without hankering over wasting time and energy on men I don't even want?!