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Not coping at all

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Padoloo · 22/07/2024 11:08

Background- DH of 15 years cheated on me last year when I was on Maternity leave so I ended the marriage. My on my own with very little help from him at all with a 8 year old, 2 year old and 1 year old. I've returned to work part time.

My two youngest ones are just relentless, constant sickness one after the other from Nursery. Non stop moaning, crying and constantly needing things. They have been in nursery 5 months now and the sickness shows no sign of stopping.

I am at the lowest I've ever felt in my life, I feel angry, snappy, getting next to no sleep with the two youngest up with sickness and everything else. No time for myself at all. Struggling financially and had to default on loads of things and not my credit rating has dropped to next to nothing. Spoke to debt people which was useless as they just suggested going bankrupt which will only make things worse. DH sees the children when it suits him and pays £200 to me each month that's all. He's very manipulative and emotionally abusive.

I started counselling through work but to date I'm not finding it super helpful in terms of day to day life. I really can't cope anymore and I don't know what to do. How did I get to this place. I can't stop crying. I fear where my mind is going to take me to next.

OP posts:
blackfriday1 · 22/07/2024 11:18

Oh OP. This sounds truly awful, I really feel for you. I know first hand how difficult that period is when DC are always poorly from nursery and it feels like it'll never let up.
Try to remember that it does, and whilst this is a really difficult phase, it will get easier.
A few questions - Are you getting all of the money you are entitled to from your ex? Can he have them more or do you have family or friends who could help out watching them for you so you can get a break? Are you claiming all of benefits and financial support you can?
It might be worth speaking to your gp if you are feeling so down. A low dose of anti depressants may help you get through this period and help you cope with things a little better. Sending you a big hug 💐

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