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Hubby's obsessed with fishing

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LovelyLuna24 · 22/07/2024 09:31

Hi, new here. Been looking for somewhere to find advice/vent. Married with 2 grown up kids, hubby always been a fisherman but it's taking over. The older he gets the more he wants to go fishing. We're mid-life age and he goes to work and goes straight out fishing 3/4 times mon-fri, then gets a good few hours in over the weekend too! I've spoken to him about how much he goes and he previously agreed to stick to 2/3 times a week but that's gone out the window now. I work until late evening so I don't mind him going after work a few times, but he doesn't come home until it's pitch black because apparently "that's the best time to catch as the fish rise to the surface". I'd like to spend a few evenings together even if it's just watching the telly, but even then he's on his phone looking at fishing stuff. Most things he talks about is fishing. He seems oblivious to my real feelings, he's even gone fishing a few times on my birthday or our anniversary and when I have a pap on me when he gets home he blames me and says I should have said if I wanted him to stay home! Erm, no he should know. I'm not wrong am I? I get fishing is his way to relax but I'm left at home, alone. I won't go with him as frankly I hate fishing with a passion. I can't stand the smells or the bugs by the water, and I just think it's vile. I go mad at him when he washes his bait box out in the sink, it's just unhygienic. If I bring any of this up again though all I'm going to get is "after everything I do for you and you're moaning about me going fishing for a few hours. When do I get time to relax..." blah blah blah. He turns it all on me and all I'm asking is he limits his fishing to 2/3 times a week not 5/6 as it currently is. Am I being unreasonable?

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AmandaHoldensLips · 22/07/2024 09:50

NEWS FLASH: He has made it quite clear that his fishing hobby is more important than spending time with you or considering your feelings.

When he does spend time with you, all he talks about is his fishing obsession.

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all, but perhaps it's time for you to prioritise your own interests.

And I hope you're not doing any of his domestic "wife work" like washing, cooking, cleaning, ironing, because clearly you have far more interesting things to do with your time.

janeintheframe · 22/07/2024 09:52

I’ve a male friend obsessed with fishing, I also find it odd. But all the blokes in his fishing club are, all the wives fishing widows.

I think blokes are often like this, doesn’t matter if it’s golf, running, cycling, fishing, whatever they get really obsessed.

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