Sister forgot nieces 18th birthday

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Exactly that…no message, card etc…

We all make mistakes.

My SIL has always forgotten our DCs birthdays, including 18ths. it's a bit crap but not the end of the world.

It's not exactly a big deal

Did you remind her ?

It seems a bit intense posting because your sister forgot her neices's birthday.

Mistakes happen, I’m sure she will be mortified when she realises.

I always forget my ones, off and on, and my aunt used to forget mine... tbh I think they are a bit like wedding anniversaries - the parents and the person who was born are very involved and everyone else remembering is a bonus.

Bloody hell. DH’s sister didn’t acknowledge DH’s 50s. I’m not entirely sure how own my nieces are. I shall await my sil starting a thread on MN when I realise.

Make sure you tag her in the pictures on FB or send photos on the family chat so she really gets the message.

Some people are shit at remembering birthdays.

Had you mentioned celebrating in the run up? Or being amazed that your DC was going to be an adult etc?

Have you seen her in person? We often don't give presents to DNs until we see them.

So?

I have just had to send DNiece a voucher and card apologising for missing her 18th. I feel awful about it, thankfully my brother was very kind about it. I have a busy life lots of birthdays to remember and a chronic pain condition that causes brain fog and extreme fatigue. I don’t know if any of that applies to your sister, but I think you should forgive her.

Shit happens, people make mistakes - if she forgot, she forgot.

Is she ok? Have you checked in with her?

How would you like this to be resolved?

It's disappointing but it sounds like you are more upset than your DD. Let it go. She probably just forgot and will feel bad once she realises her mistake.

Anyone who says they don't remember. Write them all in your diary at the start of the year.

Sorry OP, I'm going to need the TLDR; version?

I just don't understand why people make such a ruckus about other people recognizing others on their birthday.