So over 20 years ago I was offered my first flat 16 miles from the city both myself and my husband grew up in. We had a young baby and needed somewhere to call home so moved out here, also my husband worked in this town. Eventually 6 years later we got offered this house I am currently in now and have been here 15 years.
We are three miles from a busy town but to me it’s not the city I grew up in and family and friends are in the city, also going home from the city we always moan of distance, winter can be challenging
my husbands job changed he now works in the city and the only tie we have to this area is I work 12 hours a week here but also work elsewhere which would work out closer moving,as our kids are now grown up and not here for school I don’t have to worry about schools
four years ago I started looking at moving back into the city and for various reasons other potential properties didn’t work out.
I managed to find a property in the area I grew up in and began the mutual exchange process which has now been approved and only gives me 3 weeks to move, I am a very spiritual person and quite a deep thinker and feel I’ve been so blessed to be in my current house and now although I do want to be back in the city the thought of moving is making me anxious that I am making the wrong decision. My home is decorated how I want it and I know it’s only paint and flooring but it’s also the thought of walking into somewhere that not got my stamp on it and has very little storage and smaller property. I am filled with regret and very upset it’s been approved but at the same time if I was to change my mind now I know I would also think what I could have had, closer to family, much easier in winter, better walks and more convenient and assessable living.
i don’t know what to do tbh and feel nervous i am almost walking into the unknown when I’ve had security here for this long time.
i have been very anxious this last few months which is also contributing to how I am feeling.
what would you do if you were in my situation
I feel completely torn and hate change.