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How can I help my dh make friends

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mylovelydh · 20/07/2024 12:30

I am sociable (poss a people pleaser but I am working on this)
I am the social secretary for our family, its me people contact to ask us to dinner etc
My dh is funny and kind and quick witted but not many friends of his own. He doesn't seem to know how to make friends.we have been together for so long and I think we both need him to have an outlet outside his family.
I know men need a shared activity
He is not a natural sportsman so please don't suggest a team game .

His confidence is in the floor, had had a hard time at work and now works entirely remotely which is not his choice and isolating him further.
Would love some advice?
Please be kind.

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cupcaske123 · 20/07/2024 12:35

Does he have any interests such as history - he could join the local history society. Art? Art club, life drawing, watercolours. Hiking? Walking group, hiking group. Board games? Local board game club. Try meetup.com for local groups and activities.

Hardingham291 · 20/07/2024 14:25

Pickleball. Very little sport skills needed, social, you could join together and then you could leave once he's feeling more confident. Very friendly, fun sport to play. Have a look at the pickleplay app or Facebook for your local club

mylovelydh · 21/07/2024 21:16

Thanks both
Will think about these... he isn't really into history, I did find a local astronomy group may look into that some more.

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noreasonbehindit · 21/07/2024 21:23

Omg you are me!
I have a lovely husband he has a couple of friends that he goes to music stuff with but nothing involving me. Tbh I have been finding this really difficult as the kids are grown and due to no fault of our own ( moves away etc) we have no couple friends to do stuff with .
He seems ok about it but I'm feeling v lonely and weekends are frankly dull so interested in what others come up with

Sidebeforeself · 21/07/2024 21:29

Your husband is me! (Not literally!). And the suggestions above do nothing for me. Im afraid some of us don’t naturally have interests that lead to friends. I tried Meet-up and is was - as Craig Revel-Harwood would say - a disaaaartser darling!

Victoriancat · 07/10/2024 07:59

This is so like my husband, I tried to get him into team game stuff and he looked at me with horror even though he loves sports, so he does online gaming sometimes but then that fizzles out like he can't be bothered, I don't understand men 😂

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