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Can anyone help? DM taking break up personally

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Siyasiyasiya · 19/07/2024 21:37

I just phoned my DM to let her know I wanted to break up with DP of 2 years (we live together).

it’s a horrible cliche - he’s an amazing guy and I love him, but we just want different things. I’m really sad and will miss him but also I just know it’s not right. I’ve been thinking about our future for months and months and came to the conclusion that a lack of clarity is clarity where relationships are concerned.

DM basically played devil’s advocate and said that he was good in xyz ways (all true) and then that she felt sad about it because we seems happy. I feel broken - I know she means well but why is she trying to make it about her. Shall I wanted was empathy and kindness and some validation that I was doing the right thing, and she just spoke about herself at length. She then said I was wrong to tell her off!

Please can anyone help? I feel completely broken. DP was basically the person I want to for all this stuff and now he isn’t

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Bearpawk · 19/07/2024 21:41

You know she is in the wrong and you've obviously been assertive and told her that so you've done the right thing. Don't pander to her.

BeaRF75 · 19/07/2024 21:43

Why are you telling your mother this stuff? Wouldn't it be better to confide in a friend? Just don't discuss your personal life with her.

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