I don’t know how to talk to men

[FeistyFrankie]

I suspect I have undiagnosed ASD.

Work colleague was flirty with me, seemed interested. I thought I was being flirty back.

Went to the pub as a group. At the pub, I was shy and didn’t speak to him. We did chat a bit, but not as much as I wanted. He told me he’s very introverted. I think I’m the same.

Tonight we ended up chatting a lot (one on one), but then I overheard him saying to some other people that he has a girlfriend. Im gutted, honestly. I thought we had chemistry but clearly not. And it’s made me realize that this is a bit of a pattern with men. We flirt, I think it’s reciprocal, only to find our that they’re either unavailable or just not interested at all.

Just wondering if anyone can relate, or has any kind words. I’m feeling so down right now.

It’s entirely possible he was flirting with you and also has a girlfriend. The two aren’t mutually exclusive. Just says something about him (assuming what you heard is correct). You say it happens a lot - just means you are attractive. Don’t doubt yourself.

Thanks for your reply. I didn’t really get that impression from him, although I guess from what you’ve described it makes a lot of sense.

Just makes me feel like attention I get isn’t well-intentioned and is basically meaningless.

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