Gift ideas for Nigerian neighbour....

[Chipsandchips]

I have a Nigerian neighbour whose child goes to the same school as my child. A few months ago she came down when her ds told her that my ds was ill. He'd been off for school for a few days and she very kindly popped round with some fruit. I am currently in the middle of renovating my downstairs so there's literally nowhere to sit so unfortunately I never invited her in but told her I'll pop round when he's better.

Anyway I feel really bad that I've left it too late and I'd like to take a gift but not sure what I should take.

@Chipsandchips What would you take a non Nigerian friend?

Why does Nigerian matter?

Sorry I wanted to bring something that was culturally accepted as a nice giff. I know I could bring her down chocolates, cake or something
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I don't think Nigerian people like different gifts to British people tbh! Chocolate, home made cake, flowers?

Unless she follows a religion where somethings aren't allowed then just take what you'd take to any other kind neighbour. It shouldn't be complicated, I mean there's more to her than just being Nigerian isn't there!

Do that then, if it was me Id give a big bunch of flowers.
But I would do it sooner rather than later, because its possible she is feeling hurt although she wont admit it, Nigerians can be quite proud.
Its so hard moving to another country

Same as another neighbour I didn't know well who was female, flowers (modest 5-10 quid max) and a few home made cookies if I made them/ liked making them.
I'd say avoid booze as not everyone drinks. I guess she could be gluten free and allergic to flower pollen. But at least you tried!

Pop round with some chocs and invite her round for a coffee when she is free

I was reading this thread and the advert popping up was for Lovehoney. If an advert was wholly inappropriate then this is it.

Stop othering people OP, it sounds as though you've never met a foreigner before.

I'm not English but having lived in England all these years, I'd feel a bit pissed off if my neighbour bought me something pointedly Irish, like I haven't been truly accepted.

I joined the site just to reply. I live in England but come from another country that some might think is culturally similar to the UK. Coming from almost any country, you will find differences in customs, speech, and courtesy.

From personal experience, adjusting to life in the UK isn’t as seamless as some might suggest, especially when you’re away from your home, family, and native culture.

To call being considerate of cultural differences “othering” seems a bit too far. Cultures differ. Is it harmful to make an effort to learn about someone’s experiences and show you care? What better way to connect than to show interest in another person's culture and experiences?

Of course, you can always go with a universal gesture like flowers or a cup of tea, but I think there’s something lovely about making the extra effort to learn and respect where they came from, especially when they’ve shown kindness to you.