Ds was sobbing

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Ds going to mainstream. He has autism and learning difficulties. He's at the end of year 4 but working at year 1 level.

Last night he was sobbing for an hour telling me how stupid and dumb he is. He was saying he's the dumbness in his class. That all he cam do is pretend to do his work and then he doesn't get into trouble he said no one helps him etc. It was so sad bless him.

I managed to talk about how fantastic he is a drawing and he's asked me ti buy him new art stuff so I just done that this morning. So hopefully that will cheer him up.

I spoke to senco this morning and she said its fantastic that MR S is going to be the TA/ ds helper. She said it's definitely needed. He is absolutely fantastic with DS.

Does he have an EHCP? He should be getting the scaffolding/support he needs to do the work, it shouldn't be possible to just sit and not be noticed.

But solidarity. My DD10 has ASD and severe autism. She writes like a reception/Y1 child and cannot spell even simple words like my. Her self esteem is so low.

She has designated TA support and additional intervention as well as funded play therapy and supposedly social skills sessions (although school are saying they can't afford to do the recommended course).

That’s so sad and must be really hard for him. Have you started thinking about his secondary school and whether mainstream is right for him? You might find a different school which is specifically set up to work with children like your DS helps him to thrive and develop his own individual talent like his rather than expecting him to fit into a traditional education mould.

Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.

He does have an ehcp . So sorry I should have said I'm my op I forgot .

Ah sounds alot like my ds . He has theses things to. He does not have the play therapy though . But he has speech and language 121 sessions once a week

I don't think he's been getting what he should have whilst he has been in year 4. He's getting his old TA back that he had when he was in year 3. And he was absolutely fantastic with him. So we are now hoping to build on things and he gets the support he should be.

Yeah I'm looking at both. I was not keem on SEN school for him but now I have dine the other way and thinking it may be best for him

My DS was very similar, he wanted to go to mainstream with his friends, big mistake. He couldn't cope and after 8 weeks I took him out.

He now goes to a wonderful special school where he is understood and his classmates are at the same level.

He's now feeling happier and more confident. The tears and headaches have stopped.

I would really recommend you look into special school.