Is this a common experience for bereaved parents?

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A few weeks ago I met up with someone who wanted to make connections for a particular reason. We got on fine but she really pushed me on my children. I don't usually tell people I lost a child a few years ago until I know them better. It's not an easy topic for people, I know. She seemed keen to meet up again but, since then, silence. I have the feeling she's not well equipped to deal with my loss as things seemed to change at that point, towards the end of our time together. I don't see it as a big issue. I don't demand sympathy or to talk about it. I'm a full person outside that loss. Is it usual for people to run away when they learn you've lost a child?

Normal on here too it seems. 😆 Oh well, I guess it's one way to find out who in real life is worth the effort. If they take themselves out, I guess it makes it simple.

I'm so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine life is ever the same again. I think it's strange though and can't see myself reacting like that. I wonder would be get a better response on the bereaved parents board.

I don't know how it feels to lose a child but I know some people act like that when I say I can't have children.
Like they're guilty they do perhaps.
I'm truly sorry for your loss.

I thought, for a busy board, maybe some people who can relate to the other person would post their perspective. I know she was going away for a week, so I'll see if she gets in touch towards the end of the month. Otherwise, ah well. Better to know early.

Yes, sometimes it is because they fear our emotions, sometimes it is because they fear our reality.

Saying that, occasionally you become aware of some people who really shine as friends/new friends.

Have you met other bereaved families? They might be a good place to start. Some charities have family days for bereaved families. Think the lullaby trust may be one of them.

I went to a couple of Compassionate Friends meetings but found it wasn't for me.

I think some people feel uncomfortable, don't know what to say so retreat.

I'd say that's the case not only with new people but also current friends and family can do it.

Sorry for your loss