I walked out on a date

[ForOliveShaker]

Today I went on the WORST date of my life. God knows why on earth I even stayed longer than 5 mins.

so , the bloke rocks up 30 mins late, blamed the uber for being late. Okay fine, then he sat down and started talking about a new friend he made. I was like ok cool. Then he said “I binned all my other mates of. They’re not on my level. They work jobs at co op or Asda. That’s not where I am. Who wants to be a slave to a 9-5. What a joke” I stopped him and said “respectfully. A job is a job. I’m a teacher and head of literacy and a working woman. I’m successful in my own right with a 9-5 and manage a tutoring business on the side” so then he went “I live in Dubai too. A working woman means something different” so I said “you’re in the uk now. It doesn’t mean I sell my body”

the waiter arrived to take orders he went “I want the lamb” and handed over the menu. Then asked the waiter to name all the whiskeys at the bar. And ofc he couldn’t. But he interrupted him anyway.

then he told me about his arrival to the uk from Dublin and said “when I arrived the airport staff were really rude. My ear hadn’t even popped and the dickhead was asking me questions and I said are you okay can’t you see I have a headphone in and my ear hasn’t even popped and you’re going at me. What’s your problem” so I went “you basically berated someone for doing their job then. Cool” he went “no because the man behind me said well he’s clearly jealous of you”

he then proceeded to speak ONLY ABOUT HIS MONEY AND HIMSELF, nothing about me. He asked me a question and interrupted, I said “you just asked me a question and interrupted me. Please let me finish before you continue” he then said “well I’m sorry carry on” BUT KEPT DOING IT and said “no I got adhd” I said “so do I” he went “I didn’t ask”

at this point. I said “I am now done. I’m leaving. We’re not compatible and I can’t sit here a minute longer and let you be any more rude than you have been” he said “cancel the food while you’re up there” I said “that was the intention before I even got up”

VILE MAN!!!

Well done!

Yikes! What an absolute chode. Glad you got out of there!

Well done. I hope it was too late to cancel and he got lumbered with the bill

I paid for my drink actually. Again it probably shows the level of respect I’ve been raised with. My mind didn’t think. I’ll leave it to him

I dunno what happened I just felt the sudden urge to get out. I even called the restaurant later and said I’m sorry on his behalf and I hope they’re okay. I was even tempted to go in tomorrow and leave them a £10 tip each. Just as a “you didn’t deserve that”

That was one of the most depressing bits of description I’ve ever read on Mn. Which is saying something.

At least you left!

He sounds about as appealing as genital warts.

Jesus what a loser!- well done on walking out a wanker like that deserves nothing more.

Absolutely awful. Well done on leaving. Maybe now he’ll see his actions have consequences!

Vile specimen of a man

Other than living alone for the rest of his life, nobody deserves a prick like this.

Sorry that I hadn’t corrected all my grammatical errors on a MN post when I was concerned for my wellbeing after a date went pear shaped. What I didn’t include is that he also kept saying I had attitude and the talking over me was getting louder and louder.

I sobbed in my car. I genuinely sobbed. Like, depths of my heart this shit hurts type of sob. My ex cheated on me, I tried to date a new guy after that who flaked on me loads and I then walked away, then I was met with this.

My heart hurts. It actually does.

He sounds like a tool. Good call on walking out of there.

Called the staff to apologise after too. They were really lovely about it. They told me they felt he was strange too. “Just something about him that didn’t sit right” the manager said.

I understand as a teacher adhd is hard. But leaning into the diagnosis isn’t okay. I also noticed he put new posts on his insta/facebook straight after of him. Ego boost was evidently needed after I walked out. I think that ego just hit the floor. I don’t think any woman has ever done that to him and he really wanted me to be drawn in by money.

Id love to have as much as he had. But I will never tolerate disrespect like that. I find people like him get to the top, but will meet everyone this disrespected on the way down. And my sense tell me one day, he may end up actually working in a coop, just like the friends he ditched. Then he’ll want them all back. But they’ll all be doing amazing.