What is this called?

[arinya]

People who won’t take obvious advice. Examples:

Has a head ache or body pain. Doesn’t take medication or get any exercises to relieve the pain. Continues to complain they are in pain.

Takes on too many tasks at once. Refuses basic kind helping hand which would enable the simple tasks to be finished very quickly . Continues to be annoyed and stressed as if no help is offered.

Shares worries about something and asks for advice and reassurance on how to handle. Then continues to focus on worry and ignores any advice or reassurance given.

Cuts finger and doesn’t put on a plaster as it’s easier without one. Cut then keeps reopening and makes things harder not easier.

Why? 😵‍💫

A bit like a martyr?

Yes I guess so but just on a practical level, it makes no sense 😆

Probably scared of intervention it sounds like anxiety. My stepdad is like this its infuriating I say nothing now I let his own children deal with him.

Anxious but stubborn?
Pig-headed?
Can’t see the wood for the trees?

Self-sabotage?

Idiot?

God my mum was like that
Whinging about her headache but refused to take a paracetamol. I told her I didn't want to hear about it unless she had done something to try to resolve it

She was so bad once and rang me in tears so I rang 999. She was furious but they took her in and were querying meningitis so.. tough!

A knob head

I believe that the official term is 'askhole'.

My mum?

Is this related to the other problem of people who constantly hurt themselves and then blame other people?

I don't mean self harm btw, I mean smacking their toe off the doorframe as they walk through the kitchen door. It's definitely someone else's fault.

There is an elderly chap that is a regular in my local Costa. He comes in every evening, and gets given a free tea (and often moans it is too milky). For months now, he has been complaining that his boiler has packed up, and no one will fix it.
He wants the council to sort it (he owns his home). He has been given countless numbers for people who can have a look at his boiler... he wont call them. He was given the number for Age UK, and no one answered right away so he wrote them off too.

Honestly, other regulars and staff have tried to help him so many times now.

I call them yesbutters.
They have a problem and you have an obvious solution. Yes but, for some reason it won't work for them

It's interesting isn't it? It's a personality type, I wonder what it stems from. My Dad is a bit like this, it's hard to listen to.

Professional martyrs. It's a form of dysfunctional communication and is centred around seeking attention. Apparently, you're not supposed to entertain their complaints and you're supposed to try and distract them by changing the subject. If that doesn't work then grey rock their whining and don't respond, at all.

Dh used to suffer from it, but then ds told him he was a martyr on a few occasions and he stopped and hasn't done it since.

Burning martyrs. Smoke's getting a bit thick....