Hi all
I have to move back with parents and my DD who is 9 months. Her father upped and left. House is sold and I’ll be moving back to theirs in a couple of weeks.
i moved out initially as we argued lots. Didn’t get along very well at all. Relationship has been much better since living apart.
I can’t afford a new home and also can’t afford to rent as currently out of work.
I am extremely extremely grateful to be able to move back home as I know not everyone has this opportunity and I’ve expressed my gratitude a lot to my parents.
however I’ve had to spend more time with them recently due to taking things round from my house to theirs, and it’s really hitting home that moving back in could cause the same problems I faced before.
im 28 so not a child but often get treated as one. Both take over with DD and forget I’m her mum. Very opinionated, always want to know ins and outs of a ducks arse, and my mum can be pretty uptight (I’m talking lectures when I leave a mug on the side type of thing).
ive said to them both that we need boundaries and all just crack on with our lives as normal, as best we can. Really don’t want to say too much more as I don’t want arguments or for tbem to think I’m ungrateful. Biting my tongue is pretty hard as my mum can be quite toxic and will push and push my buttons until she gets a reaction.
as soon as I’m earning again and stable enough to rent somewhere I will be, but need to be sensible for DDs sake as wouldn’t forgive myself if I moved out in haste and couldn’t afford it.
has anyone been in this situation and got by? Do you literally just count to 10 and breathe?
i know I might get some hate on this post but please trust me I am so grateful but it’s a hard adjustment when you’re used to your own privacy and space.
thanks x