My ex husbands will

[Gettingbysomehow]

So I left my first husband because of domestic violence which DS witnessed.
I had an injunction out preventing him from seeing me and my ex was court ordered not to see DS until he was old enough to decide for himself: 16 to 18 as ex had belted him across the face once during an access visit.
Ex did not contribute one penny of maintenance for the whole of his childhood and even went abroad to avoid CMS.
Has never sent him a gift or card for any birthday including his recent 40th.
I brought him up alone and had 2 or 3 jobs at any one time to make ends meet, now we are comfortable and we both have our own homes through hard work.
DS has a very big heart and tried to repair his relationship with his father once he got to 17, I have to say he was greatly disapointed but they rubbed along and DS helped him with all kinds of things. i did warn him that ex would let him down so don't expect anything at all from him because he doesn't know how to give it.
Well he has let DS down and DS is heartbroken, it makes me weep to see it.
He told DS yesterday he had made a will and he is leaving his house to the child of an ex girlfriend (definitely not his child) as he always wanted a daughter not a son.
Naturally DS is devastated. I'm not at all surprised as ex is the worlds biggest ingrate and loser and I just have no idea how to comfort DS - any advice?

When he says he wanted a daughter, what he probably means is that he wants someone to look after him in his old age and promising his assets to his step daughter is his way of buying it. Dickhead.

Sounds like he is deliberately going out his way to hurt your ds by saying those words alone. Now for your ds to decide if he wants to even give his dad the time of day again. Not because of the money but he's a very nasty piece of work.

"Your DF is a nasty piece of work with a history of emotional and physical abuse. It was never going to end well." Repeat.

Set him up some therapy to help with separating loving someone from liking them and to give him the tools to process being let down.

Your poor son. Parents can be so hurtful. TinyYellow is right. He says he wanted a daughter as more likely to look after him, so leaving his house is a kind of bribe. Please tell your DS he need not take that totally personally as his father is just looking out for himself and his future in old age, and is selfish and uncaring or unable to tell how hurtful this is for his son to hear.

Hopefully he will have to sell his house to pay for care, and there won’t be a significant amount left by the time he dies.

What a cruel man. He’s gone out of his way to hurt your DS. It’s inexplicable, but he’s a selfish loser. Hope karma catches up with him.