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Would it be bad to let dd stay of on her birthday.

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 11:42

It's dd birthday in a few days she will be 14.

I was thinking about letting her bunk. So we can go and get her bearded dragon she wants, then go and treat her to some clothes and have lunch together. We don't get much time together really. I mean GS will be there . But he mostly sleeps in his buggy.

And my selfish part she can watch GS whilst I pop in the dentist for 10 min

I'm also thinking she probably won't miss much at school as they are winding down a bit now I think?

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AbstemiousBreakfast · 14/07/2024 11:44

I'm not keen on this generally, but then I'm a bit of a stickler for the rules.

What year is she in?

Sirzy · 14/07/2024 11:44

Yabu, she can do all of that (other than the babysitting!) on a non school day

Justbrowsing2024 · 14/07/2024 11:45

I did this couple of times with my mom. Have great memories. Never missed a thing at school because it was winding down.

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YourNimblePeachTraybake · 14/07/2024 11:46

Sounds like a lovely day for you both. I'd go for it.

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 11:48

Sirzy · 14/07/2024 11:44

Yabu, she can do all of that (other than the babysitting!) on a non school day

Nope because then we don't get the time together as I will have her siblings with me. OK I have the baby but he just sleeps. I would not really call it baby sitting its 10 mins . And if dd was not there I would just take him in with me.

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longdistanceclaraclara · 14/07/2024 11:49

No I wouldn't. You can do that at the weekend. Your dentist appointment isn't her problem.

Cookerhood · 14/07/2024 11:49

I'm more concerned about the bearded dragon 😂
You know they need a huge viv & a lot of looking after? Can recommend a Rankings dragon as a smaller alternative.

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 11:49

AbstemiousBreakfast · 14/07/2024 11:44

I'm not keen on this generally, but then I'm a bit of a stickler for the rules.

What year is she in?

About to leave year 9

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Bigearringsbigsmile · 14/07/2024 11:50

The "winding down' at the end of term is a myth. Its when assessments happen, when all the stuff that hasn't been completed needs to be completed, transition stuff happens etc

The last day or two might be wind down days but not last weeks. In my experience.

TinyYellow · 14/07/2024 11:51

No, she’s old enough to realise that a birthday is just another day if it falls on a work or school day and it can be celebrated outside of work or school hours. It’s often quite fun to be in school on your birthday, especially when the atmosphere is winding down anyway.

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 11:51

longdistanceclaraclara · 14/07/2024 11:49

No I wouldn't. You can do that at the weekend. Your dentist appointment isn't her problem.

Nope because then I would have my other children she's nktcan only child. The dentist thing is just a bonus. If she was at school I would still be along to the dentist regardless

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 11:53

TinyYellow · 14/07/2024 11:51

No, she’s old enough to realise that a birthday is just another day if it falls on a work or school day and it can be celebrated outside of work or school hours. It’s often quite fun to be in school on your birthday, especially when the atmosphere is winding down anyway.

She knows this. It's not something we have done before. We never gey any tome together and i thought it would be nice

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 11:55

Cookerhood · 14/07/2024 11:49

I'm more concerned about the bearded dragon 😂
You know they need a huge viv & a lot of looking after? Can recommend a Rankings dragon as a smaller alternative.

Yeah I know . We been looking into it for a while

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SingHosanna · 14/07/2024 11:56

If her attendance is generally good I don’t see the problem. She’ll learn about having to work on her birthday etc when she’s an adult. 14 is still a child and at the age could be a real boost to her to have that time with you. One day won’t make any difference to her academic achievements as long as she doesn’t have exams etc on that day.

Ghost2 · 14/07/2024 11:58

I'd let her have it off if she wants, have you asked her? She might actually want to go to school and see her friends on her birthday.

If she wants to stay off, go for it.

AbstemiousBreakfast · 14/07/2024 12:01

What will happen to the bearded dragon when she leaves home?

It sounds like you already have a lot on your plate.

RampantIvy · 14/07/2024 12:07

The "winding down' at the end of term is a myth.

I agree. Once at secondary school the only "wind down" days DD had were the last day of term. They always worked right up until the penultimate day.

Her school also ended and started the new academic year at the beginning of July so your DD may well have already started GCSE work.

DD has a mid July birthday and the only time she wasn't at school on her birthday was straight after her GCSEs.

FortunataTagnips · 14/07/2024 12:09

I can’t see the problem - sounds like a lovely day.

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 14/07/2024 12:11

Go for it! Life’s too short and it’s one day! Have a lovely mum and daughter day 😀

Sux2buthen · 14/07/2024 12:13

It will be nice, I hope you do it

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 12:15

SingHosanna · 14/07/2024 11:56

If her attendance is generally good I don’t see the problem. She’ll learn about having to work on her birthday etc when she’s an adult. 14 is still a child and at the age could be a real boost to her to have that time with you. One day won’t make any difference to her academic achievements as long as she doesn’t have exams etc on that day.

Her attendance is OK. She's never had a day of school on her birthday before so I dont think it would be an issue. And yeah that's what I'm thinking she would enjoy it I think.

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 12:17

AbstemiousBreakfast · 14/07/2024 12:01

What will happen to the bearded dragon when she leaves home?

It sounds like you already have a lot on your plate.

She's 14 not 24

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JMAngel1 · 14/07/2024 12:17

Jesus Christ. Don’t listen to all the naysayers. Have a lovely off together. One day is nothing in the grand scheme of things.

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Windingdown48 · 14/07/2024 12:18

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 14/07/2024 12:11

Go for it! Life’s too short and it’s one day! Have a lovely mum and daughter day 😀

I think we will 😃

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LividLoved · 14/07/2024 12:35

I am a teacher.

I also have VERY precious memories of my mum (single parent, worked long hours, there were three of us) taking me clothes shopping for a full day for my birthday when I should have been in school (summer birthday too). Full on Tammy Girl/BHS/Top Shop extravaganza.

My attendance was otherwise excellent and I was ahead in school, always. Some things aren't so black and white.

(Of course, my professional standpoint would be unauthorised absence, downfall of society, blah blah. Because I have to say that.)