Pregnant with DC2 struggling be happy. would you move

[Bluskyy]

I'm pregnant with my second DC, and I cannot get excited please tell me this is normal.
I was told I couldn't have anymore DC which I was upset about, but I think I had come to terms with it and what a lovely life we could give our DS now 4, now this feels like everything is disrupted.

My DP had a really tough time the first few months my DS was born so that worries me, I'm also at high risk of dangerous birth complications. We are also in the middle of moving house to be closer to family, luckily the house is big enough for another DC and we are moving close to family so that will be a bleessing with another. But it is a bigger morgatge with the current rates although this should come down in two years hopefully.

Finances are my main concern, having another DC won't put us on the breadline but obviously things will feel tighter and I always worry if one of us looses our jobs it will be hard, we also have a loan I want to get rid of in the next two years.

Due to the move we are putting my DS in private school, we are moving to late to get him in a primary I would send him to, and the school he's going is amazing. There is an outstanding primary and secondary school I could 100% get DC2 into, I'm hoping to get DS into the secondary. But is it wrong to send one private and not the other.

The other option we have is not moving and send my DS to the wonderful local primary here and stay in the same house (more than big enough for another DC) with a cheaper morgatge. But we will be 100 miles plus from family. We do have some wonderful friends here. In my situation would you move or not?

I would still move.
I absolutely would not send one child to private school and the other to state school - that's a lifetime of bad feelings in one easy step.
There must be some nice (if not outstanding) schools near the new property? The money saved on private school should alleviate some of your financial worries.
Also, losing a job is tough for most people financially. If you think like that surely no one would ever buy a property? Our mortgage would seem fairly small to some people however relative to our income it is a lot of money, ie we can only afford it with two people in full time work!
I think you are worrying yourself unnecessarily at this point.

When you say "in the middle of moving" what have you already committed?

Can you afford to move to the new area but to a cheaper house and still have space?

I admit I'm probably worrying unnecessarily at this point.
There is an outstanding school which is on our door step, which the other DC would definitely get into, it's the same school I went to. And hopefully my DS would get into the secondary.
However there is absolutely no way we would get my DS into any of the decent primary schools now as they are ridiculously oversubscribed, we won't be moved until the end of August. If it wasn't for us moving so late we wouldn't be sending him to a private school, it just was our only option or hold him back a year as he's a summer born but he's ready to go.

We could look at a smaller house, but I think we'd end up wanting to move in a few years and that would also mean we wouldn't be in for my DS starting school.