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Should I get a mothers help or cleaner

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Ironingboard12 · 14/07/2024 01:44

Currently living in a large one bedroom flat. We are Due a baby in September am looking at hiring a cleaner as I’m struggling to deep clean the bathroom and other areas. I think once the baby is born I’d also love a cleaner once a week to help keep on top of things. Will a cleaner organise a cupboard for example or help clean out a fridge once in a while. I suffer with adhd and sometimes a kitchen cupboard will become unorganised and help giving them an empty and re sort would be so helpful. Before I was pregnant I was chronically ill but working doing minor business admin for the business take over the running of the flat and any of his life admin. I basically do everything so that all he has to do is go to work. I also have another small part time job that’s a few hours a week from home max. So was able to be chronicly ill while resting and taking life easy when I needed too. Obviously with a baby on the way the baby will come first and then the flat last. I’m also wondering if I should go out when the cleaners here or stay if I stay and the baby’s asleep is me helping clean if I can a good idea. Say she’s cleaning the bathroom would I be in the way doing some ironing. My partner has taking over every task I haven’t been able to do since becoming pregnant as I’ve been so unwell with sickness and exhaustion. We can’t carry on this way though as he’s been doing extremely long days at work and then coming home to sort the house out. Would a mothers help be a better idea as I guess they could watch the baby while I clean or help organise baby stuff and if appropriate could watch the baby while I nap for an hour if im exhausted. My husbands job can be flexible if he’s got a quite day but at the moment he’s getting busier and busier he’s always been so helpful if I’m having a bad day or can’t do something but it’s not fair on him and I feel bad sometimes when he’s working 12 hour days to then come home and help me or the flat. I know I can’t help being chronically ill but with the few hours I work a week I want to be able to manage the home. I will be taking maternity leave for a year.

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Ironingboard12 · 14/07/2024 01:44

Currently living in a large one bedroom flat. We are Due a baby in September am looking at hiring a cleaner as I’m struggling to deep clean the bathroom and other areas. I think once the baby is born I’d also love a cleaner once a week to help keep on top of things. Will a cleaner organise a cupboard for example or help clean out a fridge once in a while. I suffer with adhd and sometimes a kitchen cupboard will become unorganised and help giving them an empty and re sort would be so helpful. Before I was pregnant I was chronically ill but working doing minor business admin for the business take over the running of the flat and any of his life admin. I basically do everything so that all he has to do is go to work. I also have another small part time job that’s a few hours a week from home max. So was able to be chronicly ill while resting and taking life easy when I needed too. Obviously with a baby on the way the baby will come first and then the flat last. I’m also wondering if I should go out when the cleaners here or stay if I stay and the baby’s asleep is me helping clean if I can a good idea. Say she’s cleaning the bathroom would I be in the way doing some ironing. My partner has taking over every task I haven’t been able to do since becoming pregnant as I’ve been so unwell with sickness and exhaustion. We can’t carry on this way though as he’s been doing extremely long days at work and then coming home to sort the house out. Would a mothers help be a better idea as I guess they could watch the baby while I clean or help organise baby stuff and if appropriate could watch the baby while I nap for an hour if im exhausted. My husbands job can be flexible if he’s got a quite day but at the moment he’s getting busier and busier he’s always been so helpful if I’m having a bad day or can’t do something but it’s not fair on him and I feel bad sometimes when he’s working 12 hour days to then come home and help me or the flat. I know I can’t help being chronically ill but with the few hours I work a week I want to be able to manage the home. I will be taking maternity leave for a year.

As someone with a chronic illness and a baby, I wouldnt pay someone to sit with my baby whilst I cleaned. And don't join in / get in the way either. Pay someone so you can rest, it's vital

SpringKitten · 02/09/2024 21:33

Within reason a cleaner will do what you ask so if you want to instruct them to spend 15 mins cleaning the fridge then sure they will do it. But then maybe that week they won’t have time to do one of their regular tasks.

Definitely don’t join in cleaning. And don’t go out if you don’t want or need to!

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