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How on earth do I persuade my DS aged 21 that this is a terrible idea ?

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Wordsfailmeeverytime · 13/07/2024 16:20

He’s just graduated from Uni with a first class degree. Applied for 30 odd jobs, mainly NMW as there’s nothing going in the field his degree is in. Has had a couple of interviews with no success.
‘A friend’ from uni has told him about an opening working as a cycle delivery person. Essentially delivering parcels around our local city on an electric bike. Pay is apparently £13ph. It will take him 1hr 20 to get to the job to start with. He doesn’t know the city at all. He’s not ridden a bike for 10 years and certainly not on busy city roads. He can’t drive yet (has just started lessons). He’s not the most confident, in fact I suspect there may be some undiagnosed autism going on but he’s resistant to take it further. I think it’s mad.
Appreciate I may be overreacting, what do others think ? There’s no pressure on him to start paying rent, we appreciate how hard it is to find employment but this just seems so foolish.

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Donsyb · 15/07/2024 08:35

Has he tried applying for hospitality roles? Most areas are desperate for people and usually no experience required

isthesolution · 15/07/2024 09:01

Let's him do it.

I suspect he'll work out that it's hard work and he'd rather find something else. But he's an adult - he can sort that out on his own.

usernamealreadytaken · 15/07/2024 09:13

Wordsfailmeeverytime · 13/07/2024 19:45

Computer science.
Admin jobs in the NHS require experience, preferably in the NHS.
Entry jobs in IT want experience.Civil service jobs, he’s going to apply for the fast track graduate scheme next later in year I think.
Retail jobs might not want experience but upward 50-100 applicants for each job. He applied for a job with TKMaxx. Did a quick test and they cut it down to 28 for interview. His ‘interview’ was 10 mins tops.
I might tell him to enjoy summer and start applying for Xmas jobs.

Did he not do any placements while studying, to gain the experience which so many jobs require? I thought this was an intrinsic part of degrees these days? Didn't he work at all whilst at university?

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pollymere · 15/07/2024 11:52

Distraction. Find other jobs that pay slightly more and be proactive in getting him to apply for those instead. Or look on area specific websites for jobs relating to his degree. Google it if you're not sure. Get him to join some local job agencies.

icelolly12 · 15/07/2024 12:48

Okay, so to make your DS more employable as he can't drive (as long as there's no medical reason) then the best investment you can give him is driving lessons. He will then have a much wider pool of opportunities. Obviously you may not have the funds to help him out but if you do maybe this would be a good idea?

In the meantime the cycle delivery scheme a few days a week isn't a bad idea, but isn't there something closer to your home?

angela1952 · 15/07/2024 13:01

Donsyb · 15/07/2024 08:35

Has he tried applying for hospitality roles? Most areas are desperate for people and usually no experience required

The other thing about these hospitality roles is that you can work a lot of hours if you want to so earn a decent amount. The only problem could be getting work reasonably close to home.
My son took a job as Security at events and ended up spending a lot of time and money on travelling and parking. Also his car was towed away one night, an expensive experience!

Wordsfailmeeverytime · 15/07/2024 13:19

icelolly12 · 15/07/2024 12:48

Okay, so to make your DS more employable as he can't drive (as long as there's no medical reason) then the best investment you can give him is driving lessons. He will then have a much wider pool of opportunities. Obviously you may not have the funds to help him out but if you do maybe this would be a good idea?

In the meantime the cycle delivery scheme a few days a week isn't a bad idea, but isn't there something closer to your home?

He’s actually started driving lessons and I agree this would have made things a lot easier for him if he’d done it earlier.
I’ve found a few jobs in hospitality so I’ll let him know.
Reading the replies and on the whole some good advice.

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magnoliaagain · 15/07/2024 13:36

It's acknowledged there is less work in the North. Get him to do what most graduates do and get down to London in a job that is relevant to his degree. The first couple of years he is unlikely to earn much because of rent prices but he needs to get his foot on the ladder

GrannyRose15 · 15/07/2024 18:29

Wordsfailmeeverytime · 13/07/2024 16:20

He’s just graduated from Uni with a first class degree. Applied for 30 odd jobs, mainly NMW as there’s nothing going in the field his degree is in. Has had a couple of interviews with no success.
‘A friend’ from uni has told him about an opening working as a cycle delivery person. Essentially delivering parcels around our local city on an electric bike. Pay is apparently £13ph. It will take him 1hr 20 to get to the job to start with. He doesn’t know the city at all. He’s not ridden a bike for 10 years and certainly not on busy city roads. He can’t drive yet (has just started lessons). He’s not the most confident, in fact I suspect there may be some undiagnosed autism going on but he’s resistant to take it further. I think it’s mad.
Appreciate I may be overreacting, what do others think ? There’s no pressure on him to start paying rent, we appreciate how hard it is to find employment but this just seems so foolish.

Don’t dissuade him from taking any job he is willing to do. It’s all good experience and will enhance his CV and his work ethic. He’s not a child any more. Let go.

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