I used to HAVE to be out every Friday & Saturday night, Now I couldn't think of anything worse

[amoleamouseandacat]

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I'm in my 50's. In my younger days I HAD to be out every Friday and Saturday night. I thought it was sad to be at home. Even if I had no plans, I would drive around in my car with the music at full blast (my early 20s). Now, I cannot think of anything worse then being out every weekend and I generally prefer drinks at peoples houses than bars/pubs. I never want to step foot inside a nightclub again ! I would happily spend a Friday/Saturday night home alone. This was seen as the saddest thing every in my younger days !

Anyone else resonate ?

why on earth the NC?!

Why Nc? I don't understand why people name change and announce it either. Anyway...can't think of anything worse than having to go out all the time now. Friends house yes, or a nice quiet pub where you get a seat and can hear the conversation or a restaurant, fine. Out out not a chance.

of all the threads where a NC is not necessary!

You used to do what?? This has made me chuckle. I'm not sure 20 year old you was cool. I'm guessing this is why you've NCd? But totally with you on the rest!

It's called growing up and getting old. I'm not sure it warrants a discussion tbh.

Exact same here op, although have had some decent nights out where I thought I couldn’t as opposed to wouldn’t!!

I would be too tired!! And possibly bored doing the same thing 2 nights in a row.

I would like to go out to bars more, and try new places, but it's way down my priority list, and wouldn't have anyone to go with.

Cue the smallest violin in the world...

NC because I may chose to post again in different threads under this username.
I announced NC because I it seems to be the thing to do on these boards

I regularly went out 3 nights a week and hit it hard until I had children. I loved clubbing, bars, parties etc. I wasn’t fussed about whether it was Friday or Saturday, though. I’d go out mid week and get hammered if I felt like it . Even after kids, I’d still go out 1-2 times a month on a ‘big one’.

I stopped drinking at around 40, my career really took off about the same time abd I just don’t have the time, energy or interest for big nights out now (at 47).

I still have fun, but it looks different. I cannot be arsed with nightclubs and hangovers anymore!

you aren’t alone OP. Most of our nightclubs have closed down in recent years because “going out out” is a thing of yesteryear. I work with loads of 20 somethings and they’re not into going out out. They’d rather save up and go to Bali twice a year instead!

And I think alcohol consumption is also decreasing amongst the younger population!

I've been like this since about 28. Lol. No surprise to me.

I still hate doing a Friday and say together

I am in my 50s and go out at least 3 times a week. But I have never understood why going out has to be to pubs and nightclubs. Always hated those even in my 20s. There are other places to go, if you have a bit of disposable income and near a city.

and you’d be embarrassed to have this thread in your posting history? 😕

I love going out but not clubbing, I'm 50.
Gigsx concerts, bars, pubs, theatre, performance art, festivals, cinema, people's houses for parties or BBQs. I would be sad if we didn't go out every weekend. I usually am out 2-3 nights a week.

Yes my last "going out" was to see a film in an arthouse cinema near me. On my own. I also go to the theatre and ballet a lot.

Surely this is common for a lot of people. Its just getting older surely.
Ive never been one for drinking and nightclubs but I definitely go out less in the evenings now than I used too.
I dont really see how it warrants a discussion tbh and certainly not a name change.

I went out every weekend when younger I was child free with no responsibility I worked all week just to blow my money on the weekends. I don't even drink now never mind go out probably go pub once a month for something to eat but that's about it an am only just turning 40, kids and responsibilities put a stop to my wild ways and that's fine I don't feel like am missing out nor do I want togo out!

It's just as depressing being a young adult and staying in.

There are days for the dancefloor and days for the sofa. They clearly are different days.

It isn't getting older. I go out more now I am older and don't have childcare to pay for!

I think most people feel like this when they hit their 30’s!

I am clearly a unicorn. No wonder I can't find any friends who want to come out with me.

I would rather not go out out and instead save my money for holidays abroad/large purchases for the house (eg we need a new sofa)/repairs on the house.

I think this is common for a lot of people. I’m early 30’s with an 18 month old and work full time, so I enjoy doing stuff with the baby of a weekend. We still have a night out occasionally but on the whole we go out less then in our 20’s.
I also don’t think one is better then the other, I love my going out memories from being younger and partying in Ibiza and festivals. That was what was right for me at the time.