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What do your 15yo boys like?

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TheSpottedZebra · 11/07/2024 22:06

Yes, massive generalisation!
But tell me anyway.

My nephew who I've not seen much is coming to stay for some weeks, and j don't really know what he likes to do /eat. Will he stay in his room all the time or will he be sociable?

Yes I've asked his dad. I'm none the wiser.

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sparkles79 · 12/07/2024 05:44

Doughnuting · 11/07/2024 22:27

They like the WiFi code. Immediately.

Then yes to food

This!!

When my dc were 15, it was food (anything), music (into bands I'd never heard of), gaming, and girls, not in that order.

Oh they can also be sulky mites with one word answers, and answer with an air of 'are you stupid?'

Hope you have a fab time!

Cardencallr · 12/07/2024 05:45

Food - access to lots of snacks, meat and pizza.

Ineedaholidayagain · 12/07/2024 06:00

2 x 15 year old boys in this house
1 loves football (watching/playing etc) and days out for him are tours round stadiums
1 loves the world wars and drama, we've done air shows the IWM and theatre trips.
Ask him what would be a dream day out to get ideas of where to go, cinema trips are a win.
Get cereal, bread and sandwich filling stuff for him to make his own food on top of meals. Is he bringing a games console, if you can set it up downstairs as its more sociable then being stuck in a room upstairs. Watch YouTube with him, sidemen or Mr beast are popular. Be prepared for lots of swearing!
Take him on a shopping trip to get snacks. Prime flavour water is OK, don't get prime caffeine drink as not for kids. One of mine loves protein milkshakes.

Q124 · 12/07/2024 06:06

FantasticFox27 · 11/07/2024 22:19

My son loves days out just the two of us, he really values one on one time. He likes museums, comedy shows and EVERYTHING to do with food. Loves cooking himself, trying out new recipes and playing around with spices to better meals we cook often, as well as eating out. He likes going for coffee (usually an iced frappe) and travelling around new cities looking at architecture. If the city has a tram or a cathedral that's even better.
He does not like sport. He doesn't mind music but isn't really 'in to' music iykwim. Also not bothered by clothes or brands. Definitely not a stereotypical teen

This is exactly my DS too.

Mumski45 · 12/07/2024 06:37

To echo pp

Food, the more unhealthy the better, eg pot noodles and pizzas, veg doesn't go down well but fruit can be tolerated. For some the quantity can be mind boggling. Expect late night snacks to be almost another meal.

WiFi code and internet access up front is essential, was the only thing my DS was interested in when I was planning a holiday recently.

Communication by one syllable grunts. I grunt back in the same tone and am usually understood.

Be prepared for a sudden change of mood and full on conversation if one of their mates calls them but try to keep other young children away as the language is questionable.

My DS is into Japanese Manga and pc games, for this he would like access to a state of the art gaming PC with decent screen and noise cancelling headphones. Again keep little kids away as it's not pleasant. In reality he will make do with whatever is available.

You may also be amazed at how much sleep a teenage boy of this age will need so be prepared for that if you have a tight schedule to keep.

They are also adept at doing things with one hand, eg getting dressed, cooking, emptying the dishwasher (rarely) this is because the other hand is permanently required for phone holding.

He is actually much more responsive is he is allowed to choose when and how. Ie the more I leave him alone the more he comes to seek me out for hugs/chats etc but if pestered he is likely to back off.

Good luck OP I'm sure you will be fine.

Morningsiesta · 12/07/2024 06:51
  1. Food. He's hungry ALL the time. He likes cooking himself: barbeques, hamburgers, Mexican food.
  2. Sports. He loves sport, mostly football, watching, playing, talking about. He will play other sports like tennis, golf or w/e as well
  3. Computer games and YouTube. Probably his favourite activity, but I'm still trying to limit it.
  4. Art. He likes drawing, painting and going to art galleries, but he's picky about genre nowadays. He prefers world art, broadly speaking.
  5. Bird watching. Just quietly, he likes going out and watching birds - the flying kind.
  6. Clothes shopping. His appearance is beginning to matter to him. He wants the right clothes and accessories, but he doesn't want to be seen to be caring too much iyswim.
TheSpottedZebra · 12/07/2024 16:41

Thanks for all the ideas above, lots to think about.

I'm not in London, unfortunately, In fact I'm in a deeply uncool town where not much goes on! He's also from the suburbs so not exactly expecting bright lights, big city.

I think I'm extra nervous as i don't really know him anymore, and I'm totally unused to 15yos. And scared he's gone a bit feral. And whilst my town is uncool, I'm so so much LESS cool!

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TheSpottedZebra · 12/07/2024 16:42

He likes art, that much I do know so i can follow up on that. I doubt he's been to a gallery in 4 years however so will have to make that sound exciting!

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TheSpottedZebra · 12/07/2024 16:47

A lot of the ideas sound so expensive. Is this an expensive age?

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VioletIndigoBlueGreen · 12/07/2024 18:22

I have a 15 year old and agree with much of what's been said already. Since you have such a lot of time to fill, can you get him to help you with an ongoing project of some kind? My DS will happily come to the garden centre (for cake) if I need help shifting bags of compost, for instance. If you have a garden and he's artistic, this might be worth a try? You could replant an area together or something? Lots of digging but not too expensive?

Hoppinggreen · 12/07/2024 18:30

Mine likes eating meat, going to Subway, Basketball, cricket, Anime, Manga, sleeping,online games I can't remember the name of, Greek Mythology (but not Percy Jackson), weight lifting and being charming to adults he doesn't live with
And still cuddling his Mum on occasion, especially if it gets him a back rub

BertieBotts · 12/07/2024 18:35

Mine does spend a lot of time in his room but he's pretty sociable and chatty if you have reason to spend time with him.

VanellopeVonSchweetz99 · 13/07/2024 02:11

Please don't be scared. It can be an awkward, tricky age for sure, and it sounds like this boy has been through a lot, but there's still a lot of "child" in most 15 year olds and normal human compassion will go a long way.
Expensive only in terms of eating in my house.

YorkshireTeaBiscuits · 13/07/2024 02:27

Guitars, rock music, sports, FI and burger and chips.

Osory · 13/07/2024 04:28

Sorry to hear about your sister.

A few ideas (I have a 18 , 16 and 13 yo)

  • as everyone says food very important, bring him to supermarket to choose what he likes. You could suggest making something, burgers maybe and buying ingredients
  • set up video game console (if he brings one) in shared area . My son's play video games in room attached to kitchen so still feels a bit companiable. But don't be surprised if he spends a lot of time on his phone in his room .
  • ours love bouldering (indoor climbing wall) and going to the gym
  • suggest watching a Netflix show ... We re currently enjoying "Fallout"
  • if he loves art you could get supplies cheaply enough in Book Centre .. pencils, water colour paints, bag of clay... Follow YouTube art tutorials
  • if he likes dogs does anyone you know have a dog you could borrow for a few days - night be an ice breaker bringing it for walks etc

Yes Echo what everyone says, don't take it personally if he grunts in answer to questions... 15yos can be shy and hormonal and grumpy.. and he's been through a lot poor kid. but it is a lovely age too.

Good luck... You sound like a lovely aunt and I'm sure he'll have good memories of his trip. Try relax and go with the flow....

Cardencallr · 13/07/2024 07:15

Can you youtube on your TV? If so that would be good - find things he likes / you can tolerate and watch stuff say when eating. Makes it more relaxed and a good way to connect about stuff and might make him more comfortable.

Lifestooshort71 · 13/07/2024 07:29

My 15-yr old GS likes his own space, he likes to sleep in with his phone on, plays ps5 with his mates (if he's into this, could you borrow one for the 3 weeks?) - he's also into fishing and playing rugby but that's a bit specific. Would you be able to do a day trip to London? There are some amazing immersive art and mind-puzzling experiences on atm but wouldn't be a cheap day out. I second doing just regular stuff - supermarket shopping where he can choose and anywhere for coffee that involves cake. Most of all, he'll want to set his own pace and feel secure and loved - poor chap ❤️

mamaduckbone · 13/07/2024 09:16

Mine likes eating (and anything to do with food) going to the gym, rugby and trainers. He's fairly grunty at times but can be pretty sociable and pleasant with wider family.
I think you will get so many different answers on here - there isn't any such thing as a typical 15 yo!

mamaduckbone · 13/07/2024 09:22

But yes, having now rtft (sorry!) I would plan some activities rather than asking him to choose too much.
Maybe a theme park, water park, mini-golf, Beach visit if you're close enough, cinema...my ds loves all of these.
Give him plenty of time to chill with his phone or PlayStation / x Box if he has one and can bring it with him.
Make sure he knows he can help himself to food at any time (my ds stayed with his auntie for a week to do work experience and this was a big one - he eats about 63 meals a day and it was nice for him to know he didn't need to ask).
So sorry for his and your loss Flowers

Marblessolveeverything · 13/07/2024 09:24

Sorry to hear of your sister passing.

Given his age is there things your sister and family loved doing that he may not have known? Was there a favourite programme that is maybe suitable now?

Is there places you can show him which are family in jokes etc. Given his age this may be a little early but if he knows you are willing to share then this may be something for the future..

I have a sixteen year old he likes hearing of what we got up to(it was never wild). And exploring the area I grew up in.

Pampledample · 15/07/2024 20:10

TheSpottedZebra · 12/07/2024 16:47

A lot of the ideas sound so expensive. Is this an expensive age?

It doesn’t need to be expensive. If cost is an issue, then food would be the priority. It’s hard to explain how hungry my 15yo ds is.

WRT activities, my instinct is you’re just doing stuff to get him out the house so he can properly being in the house again 😁 So driving to the supermarket is one pp have mentioned, even if you usually get food delivered. And don’t ask if he wants to go the supermarket, just say ‘right, let’s to Tesco and get some food in’. He may well look disinterested and surprised, may play on phone for most of car journey, but is actually quite happy. Teen boys can seem so grown up, but they are still quite young and they get a lot of security from adults in their life being calm and confident.

I think a couple of bigger trips might be nice if you can afford it, but you don’t have to spend too much money. Again, don’t second guess yourself about whether he’s enjoying these trips. Just accept him wherever he’s at. Loads of times you think a teen boy didn’t like something at the time but then they chat about it afterwards with real fondness.

And obviously let him know to tell you if there’s anything he needs or fancies doing. That’s a better way to phrase it that than asking him what he wants to do. Or give him two options.

Do let him set up his games console ASAP. It’ll be how he keeps in touch with friends.

Good luck. You sound like an amazing aunt.

One final thing. I have two teens - a boy and a girl. They both can have huge hormonal mood swings, but it’s easier for dd cause they’re linked to her menstrual cycle so she knows what’s happening. Ds can have real dips and they feel so out of the blue to him. He’s had a tough couple of weeks, but now he’s okay again and Dh pointed out to me that he’s suddenly shot up half an inch. So the hormones are real, and they’re usually thinking about themselves nor you.

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