Hello
I'll try and keep this brief but also try and give as much information as possible. I am autistic as is my DS11 and I suffer from depression and anxiety and have a habit of overthinking. This is relevant as I am fully aware this may sway my viewpoint so I'd be happy for your objective opinion and help please!
DS11 has a friendship group but lately they have begun ostracising him and ignoring him on occasions. Not everyone in the group explicitly says things like "go away" but it's usually the 2 ring leaders who call the shots and tells him he can't join in and the rest follow suit. There are some nice lads in the group and are kind to my DS on an individual basis but as soon as they get together the dynamic changes and they can collectively be quite mean. Seems they are ruled by those two. When he is one on one they are all OK with him in general.
He leaves primary next week but as luck would have it, the two who are most spiteful out of the group are the ones going to his secondary school. One of them has already said that he's not allowed to talk to them when they get to secondary. My worry is that they will make trouble for DS and turn others against him if try create another group. Or if DS finds a new friendship group, they may come and manipulate that, if you see what I mean. I'm on good terms with all mums and of these boys at primary. Should I say something to them? I'm socially awkward and anxious at the best of times but can't bear my boy to be sad and unhappy.
He is kind ,genuine and good natured. He is quite bewildered and doesn't unhappy what he's done wrong. They also criticise his shoes, lunchbox, haircut etc even though some of them have an identical lunch box. Seems he's an easy target for ridicule.
With only a week to go, WWYD? It's the concern that it will extend into secondary that's my worry.
Thank you