I am in the very early stages with a lovely man. He's a couple of years younger than me and attractive in a middle aged, takes care of himself kind of way. This feels like a real stroke of luck, IME well presented men in their 50s generally date younger women! And he seems to be a genuinely good guy too.
Anyway I vaguely know the woman who was his first real GF (c. 35 years ago!). I know her through slightly overlapping social circles and have spent a couple of evenings in the company of her and her DP, both lovely people.
I know "my" man completely separately to that, it was one of those "small world" things when we realised we both knew her. They're still in touch, in a perfectly harmless old friends occasionally comment on FB kind of way.
Yesterday, I heard the shocking news that her DP had died suddenly. My first thought was how awful for everyone, but it was rapidly followed by the most awful jealous feeling that it will be all over for me now she's available, I bet he's been in touch etc.
I've no idea if he'd be interested if she was a available, but I'm certain he won't be moving in on her within days of her partner of 10 years dying. He probably has been in touch and offered support because that's who he is ,and he would do itfor anyone.
Give me a shake!!