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What do I do… option 1 or option 2???!

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Bunbum · 10/07/2024 13:57

Help!!!

First born child problems so first time in this situation and don’t know what to do for the best.

DS has been at current nursery for 1.5years, he settled in lovely, it’s an old converted cottage and has a lovely warm, friendly, almost family-like feel to it. Staff are great and it’s simply a great setting.

However… he still has a year left there and as he has really attached himself to the 4 year olds (who will be leaving come Sept to start Reception), he is going to be really stuck with friends :( it’s a mixed class of 2-4 year olds but with a larger intake of 2 year olds (who he will not play with). Furthermore there will be a few changes in staffing in September.

These past couple of weeks drop offs have been awful. I’ve persevered and sent him in but have had to peel him out of the car and take him in crying his eyes out - which he has never done before. I’ve asked him why he is crying and why he doesn’t want to go but he just says he wants to stay with mummy.

I was considering sending him to a different nursery in September (larger nursery where his class would be 3-4yo’s only instead of mixed with the younger ones). However I’m not entirely sure that would even change anything and perhaps it’s just a phase he is going through.

I’m worried that keeping him where he is, he may be a little tired of it (being such a small setting), a little lonely considering the influx of little ones and just not very happy in general (must add though - every time I pick him up staff always say that he’s had a great day, he always seems very happy at pick up and apparently gets over the crying as soon as I leave).

On the other hand, if I move him I worry it’s too big of a change with all new classmates, staff and routines.

What do I do, it’s really upsetting me. First thing he asks each morning is ‘are we going to nursery?’ In hope that I will say no, which is distressing both of us :(

OP posts:
Alalalalalongalalalalalonglonglilong · 10/07/2024 14:10

I'd say it's just a phase. That said, a change of scene might snap him out of that but it is really worth it? The smaller kids catch up fast, I'm sure he'll make friends. I work with this age group in a nursery and new kids always seem to fit right in. Sorry I'm not saying a or b! Both would be fine, go with what's easier for you.

SatinHeart · 10/07/2024 14:26

Has the other nursery still got spaces for September? Thinking ahead to schools, do you think it would have more/fewer children going on to school with your DS?(appreciate it might be too early to know this)

Move him because you like the other nursery more, or the precticalities are better. Don't move him because he's crying at dropoff. Chances are he'll do it at the new place too (voice of experience).

pictoosh · 10/07/2024 14:42

The atmosphere and familiarity will have changed for him with the older lot leaving and the younger lot coming in. It probably feels strange to him and he is mourning the way it was. I think that's quite normal really. He needs time to get used to it.
If you prefer the other nursery that's ok too.
He'll be fine either way. x

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