Hello,
I already have 3 children. 7,4 & 2. I adore them no end and believe I cope remarkably well with them all as well as sometimes being a carer to my partner who’s got a chronic condition.
I do the majority of house work, schools runs, doctor apps, extra activities, parent fundraisers, arrange parties, play dates, birthdays, trips and holidays etc. I also help out extended family as and when needed and manage to keep my house looking spotless (clean but lived in at times!)
Ive always wanted 4 children. I want to have 1 more child in the next year if I am blessed enough to be able to.
However I always get comments off of my mum saying “3 is enough, that’s a lovely number” or “there will be a huge age gap between your oldest and the new one if you do….”. And my partner is constantly saying yes or no. Yes but only when he’s nearer to his 40s or no, because he can’t keep changing the nappies or dressing them…. Baring in mind I do majority and do school runs etc so I am the one providing majority of care and doing the “fiddly” bits.
I don’t want to wait another 5 years to have another. I want a close ish age gap. It’s hard for women to keep getting themselves back on track after a baby and I want to keep the hard a bit closer to make days out and holidays a little easier.
im hurt from my mums comments. And I don’t know why she feels the need to control what I do with my body and my family.
she has dictated a lot in my life and it’s really upset me her comments.
has anyone else faced similar? I feel like my partner is just stringing me along atm and then acts shocked when I get upset when he’s suddenly against it when a week ago he hadn’t been. it’s constant back and forth. i want to know what I’m doing with my life.
abd my mums comments have really stung.
feel like a child.