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I can’t tolerate my colleague. Help

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ForOliveShaker · 08/07/2024 22:48

Okay so, I consider myself as a very firm willed individual. I’ll listen and help anyone when they need it at work. We’ve had a particularly difficult year with another colleague in our team. She’s not a team player, and has a very strong odour of fecal matter and soggy feet. It’s very unpleasant particularly as we have a small office. Anyway, my other colleague who has an axe to grind 24/7 made a group chat without her. I used to go out drinking with her but she started to be so vitriolic towards this other lady I had to stop. I’m not a bitch by any stretch. The worst part is. Our team leader is in this group allowing it to happen?? The other colleague claims it’s because she wants to send things to chats without feeling judged. I really dislike this behaviour. And no, hr would do nothing at our work place. This lady has been allowed to be completely toxic and poisonous for far too many years and every team lead/ people in the team have tapped out.

Help..

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Lilieee · 09/07/2024 00:31

No advice - but gosh she sounds horrid!

samarrange · 09/07/2024 01:01

I'm not quite sure who is who in your story (the word "other" appears quite a bit, sorry -- can you maybe do a version with A and B?🙏), but if one of your colleagues has a hygiene problem, it is up to the team leader to deal with that. If they won't then you could go to their manager.

For what it's worth, I once had a new colleague with terrible armpit BO. We drew lots for who would tell her (it wasn't me). Turned out she had a very poor sense of smell and was grateful to us for telling her. She upped her shower scrubbing game and everything was fine after that.

In your case it sounds like it could be a MH issue. Smelling of shit suggests that something pretty basic is wrong at home.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/07/2024 02:23

I would be looking for a new job.

dollopz · 09/07/2024 03:13

Mute the conversation or remove yourself from the group. Say you’re having an IT detox, well as much as you can working with technology.

smithsinarazz · 14/11/2024 22:48

samarrange · 09/07/2024 01:01

I'm not quite sure who is who in your story (the word "other" appears quite a bit, sorry -- can you maybe do a version with A and B?🙏), but if one of your colleagues has a hygiene problem, it is up to the team leader to deal with that. If they won't then you could go to their manager.

For what it's worth, I once had a new colleague with terrible armpit BO. We drew lots for who would tell her (it wasn't me). Turned out she had a very poor sense of smell and was grateful to us for telling her. She upped her shower scrubbing game and everything was fine after that.

In your case it sounds like it could be a MH issue. Smelling of shit suggests that something pretty basic is wrong at home.

Edited

Yes, there's a woman in the choir I sing with sometimes who smells dreadful, and I'm as sure as I can be that there's a MH element. There are others in the group who are closer to her than me, so I don't think it's my job to say anything. I just try not to be downwind of her.

Ginkypig · 15/11/2024 00:34

So who is your issue with smelly non team player or WhatsApp group starter?

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