A bit of background but I recently handed my notice in at work. I had moved teams internally at work (from team A to team B - the same team but different work) and I asked my original boss if I could go back to my old role after 2 months of trialling it. I should have been more assertive in saying what I wanted but was open to a new challenge in team B. Unfortunately it wasn’t what I thought it would be and I went to HR in the first instance. The managers assistant called the shots and was incredibly challenging to work with, feeding back to manager of Team B by copying the manager into every email.
i had a meeting with HR and manager of Team A and was told that they got feedback from manager of team B. Apparently a load of so called issues were brought to their attention but this was all news to me. I ended up being put on a PIP and being told that they wanted to support me in getting better in Team B. I felt that it was just a ploy to get rid of me as I’d asked to go back to my original job. Team B manager gave some examples (saying about attention to detail etc but no solid specific examples). I called a meeting with HR and said I wanted to get specific examples from manager of team B. Manager of team B started ghosting me before I called the meeting and said that I would get examples at my exit interview. I subsequently asked to have an exit interview sooner.
I had my exit interview today and told the HR person that I hadn’t received any feedback on Manager B’s issues that she had. The HR person was pretty rude and said why would I want to know her examples as it would upset me & my response to was that how am I able to move on and improve if I have no idea what they’re talking about. I don’t get this air of secrecy.
Apparently manager of Team B kept a folder and thought she was providing constructive criticism. I called her the other day and called her out on why she hadn’t brought things up beforehand. I only got the examples during the exit interview. The HR person came across as very rude and said why did I need specific examples as I got the broad idea of what was wrong. Apparently receiving an email from team B manager asking me to do something was meant to be constructive criticism. I then decided that I wanted to receive the examples over email and she proceeded to read them out until I interrupted her and assertively told her that I wanted it in email, not during the meeting as she initially said.
Later in the meeting the HR person said that my manager said that another example on the PIP was that I wouldn’t drive 60 miles to see a client when I said I wasn’t comfortable going by myself as I was new into the job and the client had significant MH issues. I suggested a video call instead, which the client was happy about.
I want to let it go but I am feeling like I’ve been pushed under the bus by my manager who always is so nice on the telephone and calls me ‘my lovely’ every few minutes. I feel like she is 2 faced and has been keeping tabs on me without my knowledge.
As another person said they are paid by my work so they will always back them as they’re paying their wages!
I Know I need to let it go and concentrate on my future but the experience of having an exit interview and being told that I’m not entitled to see what they said about me, has left me wanting to clear my name and move on from this negative experience. The HR person felt like they were trying to get a reaction out of me.
i feel more confident dealing with difficult people having come out of a Narc marriage at the beginning of the year.