The right things to say/do when someone is seriously unwell

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My friend is very seriously unwell with cancer. They are scared absolutely fucking understandably.

Please can anyone tell me what are the right things do say or do because I will be honest nothing I say seems enough at all. All I want to do is support them but this is not something I have had experience of before.

I can’t visit or send anything as they are being isolated to protect them. I speak to them every day and am trying my best I just need advice, especially from people who might have been through this - what helped you? How did you help someone else?

Don’t tell her how strong she is. I’ve just finished six rounds of chemo and if one more person tells me how strong I am I’m going to go insane.

@Theredjellybean I love that!

I have asked my bestie if she wants me to punch the next person who calls her a hero. (Hilarious if you ever met me. I’m about as scary as a teacup poodle.) She has two kids with asd and a DH with MH issues so needed someone she could let loose with. She felt like everyone told her how strong she was so that they could protect themselves from the reality.