Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Drink Driving with DD in car

2 replies

userhelp · 08/07/2024 17:43

My dd is nearly 10, I split with her dad when she was newborn as he had issues with drink, when she was young all contact was at my house and then when she got older he has her some weekends and I honestly thought he wouldn’t drink when she was with him and that he had sorted himself out!

Dd has told me randomly this week that her dad puts wine in a water bottle and drinks it in the car when driving! I know he used to do this (hence why we split) he used to call it his driving juice and drank it usually the morning after drinking as he used to get anxious and the shakes! I feel sick that he’s doing this!

Obviously I need to stop contact which he won’t like, he lives a hours drive away. He isn’t on birth certificate (his choice)

Dd doesn’t actually want to see him she has always not wanted to go snd says he doesn’t like her dad! She is a very very intelligent little girl and her dad has a older son who also refused to see him the second I spilt with him and has since had no contact

What do I do from here? Who should I contact I really don’t think he will go down the court route as he wouldn’t pay but if he does then I’m concerned that I wouldn’t be listened to and that he would get contact and continue putting her at risk

OP posts:
Flipzandchipz · 08/07/2024 17:47

I think you should discuss with social services and the police and get some advice so that when you stop contact there is a trail of why, This will be important if he wanted to take you to court. Also, it is unbelievably irresponsible of him. It is obviously a huge issue if he has been driving under the influence with your daughter in the car. But if he regularly does this he is putting other peoples lives at risk too so it is very serious

userhelp · 08/07/2024 17:51

Thank you I did wonder about calling social services so I will definitely do this and speak to them! I definitely do want a trail as I think he will just give me hell and abuse and turn up here! I am hopefully moving in the near future though so that will make things easier as we do live in totally separate counties and he doesn't know anyone from my area

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page
Swipe left for the next trending thread