DS11 and 18+ films

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DS11 has a close friend who is allowed to watch anything he likes and has shown DS violent clips. How worried would you be about this and is there anything to be done? Would you have a word with the friends mum? DS would be pretty upset to be banned from going round and I imagine at high school this may be widespread anyway. But equally don’t want DS having nightmares or seeing inappropriate sexual content as well as violence.

We absolutely stuck to certifications and told parents when they were staying over.

I'd be quite strict on this one. Just tell the other mother he isn't allowed 18 rated stuff. They can watch something else. We did that when DS was younger, he had a friend who played adult video games etc. If he was 14 I wouldn't worry but 11 is very young. My DS2 is 11 and is easily upset.

Thanks, I will talk to the other mum

you are right OP, certificates are there for a reason and I think a lot of people that think their kids are ok with it don't realise it might be seeping out into their behaviour.

Same. Perfectly okay to say he’s not allowed.

The other parents are crossing the line. Saying that as a kid I wasnt allowed to watch anything inappropriate but round my friends house we watched allsorts with their parents who couldnt care less. I remember being pretty horrified at The Lost Boys and The Terminator but damn those 80's films were so much better than the stuff put out now!

I stopped Dd going round to her friend's house and I told her why. Free access to everything, no parent present so no point saying anything. Told her she would still see enough of her at school and she could come to ours occasionally.

Problem with that approach is, he will see it as punitive and just won’t tell me the next time something like that happens at a friends.