Anyone else not really have any friends?

[Halllee]

26 yo. Mum of 2 (nearly 3 and nearly 1) young kids and kind of lost myself to that which is normal. I ebf for 6 months with my youngest too so I just felt the desire to be alone any time I got to myself?

I live with my fiance we’ve been together 6 years

hes a bit awkward but has a solid group of friends and is good with them and social but not the type of guy who can go into a room and chat to anyone

I don’t really have any friends. I left school early to work while everyone stayed on for sixth form so I cut those ties. I myself am very awkward I have Asperger’s too so just really can’t manage social stuff well

i ook at my older sister she’s got some friends she’s really good socially and goes out with her boyfriend and his friends / their partners

id say she’s my friend tbh we always say this about eachother. We always say this and we’re lucky to be so close! But she has her own life and I never want to burden her

I feel lonely easily and just quite overwhelmed a lot? I’m unsure why. Sometimes I see people going out with friends and I never get to do that. I also think how would I even manage it anyway as I don’t even get date nights with my fiance never mind time away from my kids for outings

i I don’t know I feel a bit sad about it but also don’t think I could manage having friends ? I feel so wiped at the end of the day and just catch up on housework

Try a baby or toddler group. Even going to the library. Most do story sessions. It's hard with young kids you may find just meeting other mums beneficial. Friendships grow from there. Try an evening class, exercise class. Lots of things that can lead to friendship. First time is the hardest. Good luck 😍

I feel like this. I have 2 children and find myself exhausted by the end of the day but I’m also so envious of others going out and spending time with friends.

I don’t have a big friendship group, probably 2 friends who I don’t see that often. Even just someone to text and check in with would be nice .

Could you go out with your sister one night? Just have a night off and enjoy some time to yourself? You could then explain to your sister how you’re feeling and maybe suggest going out with her friends?
I don’t have a sister, only brothers and really wish I could be close to a sister.

Have you taken your little ones to any groups? You could try talk to other local mums and arrange some meet ups with the children.

Surprisingly I do go to baby sensory and did with my eldest! I just find myself keeping to myself really I don’t know if I seem unapproachable ?

yeah I am so lucky I can and have told my sister all sorts we’re always there for eachother. I just don’t want to burden her she’s my older sister she’s so protective and she worries about everyone all the time she’s amazing she just wants everyone happy!

im scared if I told her how I feel she’d really bear the weight of it and try and fix my own problems that I need to type of thing

You might find that the school years give you an opportunity to make friends. Seeing the same people twice a day and having school life in common really helps. If you can do a bit of volunteering for the PTA that would be even better.

I'd just concentrate on your little ones for now as the baby/toddler years are exhausting enough.

See of you can find any local WhatsApp groups for mums with kids' of their age. They're really good for solidarity and support when you don't have the time or headspace for in person friendship, and friendships can grow from there. I've made two very good friends via WhatsApp who I often now meet for dinner now the kids are a little older.