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So mad at myself

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kidsandpuppies · 07/07/2024 01:07

I was in Costco with my six-year-old, and I bought us each a hot dog for lunch. DS wasn't helping me carry anything so I was balancing two hot dogs, two drinks, condiments, napkins and my purse while looking for a table. It was very busy, but I saw some people leaving so I moved as fast as I could and sat down at the table. This man came up to the table and said he was waiting for it. I didn't see him, it was very busy and, to be honest, I'm not sure how you wait for a specific table in a food court. I was waiting for a table and so were a lot of other people. He sat down! And five minutes later the other four members of his family came over with an entire pizza. He got up and three of them sat down and started eating. DS talks to everyone and was asking them why they were there, he was completely confused. I am so mad at myself for letting it happen and for not telling this very entitled man that he should find his own table. I guess he thought if he was pushy enough I would pick up my hot dogs, drinks, etc and just go because clearly he was more deserving of it. I just sat there telling DS to eat his hot dog. I ate my hot dog, DS was so confused by the whole thing he didn't eat. We eventually left and they got the table. It really upset me that I let this man do this and while I didn't get up and give him the table, I didn't stand up for myself either. I just want to add that if he had been waiting for his wife and asked if they could sit there, I would have gladly shared the table.

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loropianalover · 07/07/2024 01:14

You did stand up for yourself, you stayed in your seat and ate your food.

You should have helped yourself to pizza.

kidsandpuppies · 07/07/2024 01:50

Thanks, you're right, I should have helped myself to pizza! It just didn't feel like I gave DS the right message about the power dynamics between women and men. However, with people like this, there is no way to know how they will respond to being challenged.

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