Am I the neighbourhood fun sponge or are my neighbours selfish

[Worriedmum40284]

Feeling rather peeved after another incident of what I consider to be inconsiderate behaviour from surrounding neighbours.

1. Tonight, after the England game finished, a number of kids appeared in our car park (square of houses with a car park in the middle - see rubbish diagram) and started playing football. Our car is parked in said car park (see the asterisk). No parents in sight (some really quite little ones no more than 4 or 5 out there) and the ball is flying around really close to cars. Why would anyone think that's ok??? DH politely went out to ask them to keep the ball away from cars and moved ours to be on safe side.

1. Neighbours with bays A and B allocated to them in rubbish diagram regularly have someone come to visit who parks their car in position C (not a parking bay), making it really tricky to get cars along our row in and out.

1. Next door have a bush that somewhat overhangs our garden - not a problem. Whenever neighbour trims bush, cuttings fall into our garden (no big deal, we clear it up as they don't seem to like to mention it). But, a load of cuttings also end up in parking bays (green squiggles are gardens) which they do have access to, and they just leave them there.

After the footie incident, I'm starting to think I'm just surrounded my arseholes. Am I, or do I need to lighten up?!

@GreenTeaLikesMe - but there is a park two minutes away!

Would you be happy for kids to play out in the street and for a football to break your windows? Or is it just cars you don't mind being damaged?

Or are the cars parked in an inappropriate place? There is clearly alternative parking available as the OP’s car was moved out of the way. Too many cars are parked in public places that could be used by children for playing out safely

@GiantHornets - I can't think of anywhere that cars park that kids could safely play. But in this case the cars were in a CAR PARK. Not in the park, which op says was 2 mins away so the kids could have gone there... 🙄

I'm also a fun sponge if you are, as those things would annoy me too.

We have a 'car C' situation in our car park too. It's driving me doolally as it makes it so hard for others (including us) to park, and the spaces next to it have murder getting out without doing a 15 point manoeuvre.

We had a group of little cherubs who constantly did this during the last Euro 2021. After the third time they hit my car, and after myself and others speaking to their 3 sets of knuckle dragger parents who kept using the excuse "they're only having fun" and comments regards lockdown, I had enough.

The ball hit my car door so hard it left a dent so I went out, told them to go to the local park or Ill call the police.

Queue chief knuckle dragger father of the group coming over screaming abuse. I pointed out the damage to my car door and asked if it was OK if one of my DC came over and made a similar dent on his car as it was no big deal.

Kids were taken to the park after that.

I'm all for kids having fun but they should be supervised and not causing criminal damage.

I couldn’t get worked up about the cuttings to be honest, or the occasional use of bay c, as you can clearly still get out, tricky or not.

which leaves the kids playing football, to be honest I’d not really bother about that either, it wouldn’t occur to me.

I think you’re really focused on your neighbours and little things, are you bored?

Do the kids play football there regularly or was this a one off? If the latter, you had a word with them, let it go. But Car C - that’s your big issue here, clearly.

At C would really annoy me! Can't they park on the other side of A? Or is that another neighbour's space? Is there on road parking nearby?
Football yep it's not a place to play, gardens and parks - kids that age need supervision they're 'those' types of parents!!

Can people please use manners. I and my family have seen football being played around the neighbours cars for 40+ years here and no damage.

For the start alek saying it's a car park, yes most children will go there because it is less likely to have through traffic so easier to keep safe, - the child obviously have better problem solving skills. I imagine the park is out of bounds because it isn't as visible to the parents

And people wonder why the UK has an ever increasing obesity issue. And to the poster saying cars are everywhere, I agree now every home has one if not two they take up the roadside space where play was facilitated in the past.

To answer a few questions - it is a designated car park and some of the houses around it have designated bays so no one is parking where they shouldn't (apart from in position C!)

There are two visitor bays so the car that parks in C (basically behind an allocated bay but not in an actual bay) could use one of those. One is always vacant!

Plenty of street parking available outside the front of houses too (all the houses around back onto the car park.)

As for being bored - I don't think so, probably more the opposite with too much going on at home and at work! Think it's more an accumulation of annoying things that came to a head last night when I was trying to chill out on a Saturday night after and ahead of busy weeks.

I'd be inclined to agree!