Leave me alone

[Againandagain33]

Ds is 17. I always dread him waking up. Because he's always in my face about something he constantly stresses me out. He's always acusing people of taking stuff from his room. He thinks someone went in his room and took his poxy vape whilst he was sleeping. No one has taken his vape . He bangs on and on accusing his sister of taking it.. she has not . He won't leave it . He's aggressive in his tone . And you know what . If a game controller gos walk about, it's In his room , if a charger vanishes.. its in his room ... and so on.

Then generally I get, mum tell her to stop looking at me, tell her not to bang, tell her to turn her music down. Then he just constantly nags .

He constantly talks at me.

I was doing some house work i had a good sort of feeling positive vibe within myself as soon as he's up that's ot it's gone . Now I don't want to do fuck all I feel deflated .

This is not actually about the vape
Yes there's a massive back story.

Yes i am ranting

I can't just block it out. I wish I could but I have responsibility

You've posted about him before, I think.

My heart goes out to you. It's such hard work for you. I'm sorry.

@soupfiend hopefully her son will behave differently when he's not with family.

Sometimes they do, sometimes they dont. OP hasnt said whether he is asking to be a Child in Care or whether this is a housing application, its unusual for housing to accommodate someone under 18, they normally want the LA to take the child into care and give a LAC status, although some young people dont want that.

Anyway, hopefully OP and her daughter are ok

He has a sw. He did not want to do the section 20. But she's helping ho. Get onto supported accommodation. Yes he's likely to behave differently compared to at home.

Well thats a good thing in a way because if he didnt change his ways he wouldnt be able to comply with the LAC expectations, visits, health assessments, reviews, curfews, placement requirements etc etc

Just have to see .

I'm sure I've read your previous posts and it's amazing you are managing to survive.

The incessant talking, the magpie behaviour, being volatile, moaning about siblings.

It's just so bloody wearing.

Thank you... it is better than it used to be. But still hard work.

It is. I mean some of it is typical teen behaviour. But it's the tone and boarding on aggressive. And he drowns you out with his voice

It's all behaviour that you wouldn't accept from a partner, it would be correctly labelled as abuse.

From your DC you are expected to accept it time after time after time.

Yes. But it has got better compared to what it was so I can't ignore that . Some of it could be me. Because of what's happend in the past I could still have my panic/protective mode on. Maybe he doesn't mean any harm and I'm taking it more deeply than I should. Then again maybe he knows what he's doing ...I don't know.

It's so hard to not be triggered into flight and fight when it's previously been horrendous. Your subconscious takes you back to all the times it escalated into horrendousness.

I have wanted to leave so many times as my self worth and confidence has been so battered.

Are you in a partner Dv relationship? Or is it about a child/teen ?

Child/teen.

Oh I wish I had answers. It makes it so much harder . Has anyone tried to help at all ?

Overall things are so so so much better. Then she has moments and I get transported back to the "bad days" but that's my issue rather than her behaviour.

We've been fortunate really, it could have been so much worse. The future looks good 99% of the time!

Oh that's something I guess . But it's still very hard . I hope your OK